If you pay for private school fees will you pay uni fees?

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As the title says, if you pay private school fees will you pay for uni fees, tuition and maintenance for your kids? On a combined income of about £90K and wondering if it was feasible? People say they'd rather save for a house deposit, but do they actually save it? Really hate the idea of my kids starting life in debt

We pay for school and will also pay for university. Largely because we can. We also won’t charge board should the situation ever arise post uni, will help her as much as we can in any and every way, because both my husband and I want to.

She is a genuinely lovely, kind and generous kid with the biggest heart. We don’t worry about her not managing in ‘the real world’ and we want to help her.

We have worked very hard to give ourselves and her a lovely life. When she’s older and has a family of her own (if she does), we will help them as much as we can too. It’s just what we see as being the way we want to do things.

My husband didn’t get any kind of help whatsoever, despite being from a very wealthy family, and I was from a very ‘normal’ family - I got help to start out but always conditional and never given with good grace. It’s hugely played a part in how we feel and what we want to do for our daughter - as much as we possibly can!

Even though people can be very sensible at 18 (I was 17 when I went to university even as a year young) most of them do not have much life experience so although they may be 17 when they applying they may not fully understand money and debt and tax. I don't think it is simple as to whether a parent who can afford to should pay, but it certainly needs consideration from all aspects. 4 of my children have ended up London lawyers (2 qualified last month) and I thought that was likely as that is what I am so probably higher earnings were likely and I was already paying school fees so basically just carried on with the same cost for the extra years - my choice (it also reduces inheritance tax in a sense as instead of my saving that money and giving the state 40% of it when I die the children had it for university fees/rents). One of my sons who is job hunting at present and not a lawyer however would not have repaid any student loan due to low earnings. However even he is glad he has no student debt and I don't mind that having been a "wasted cost" as it were as he might earn more later and also I just have a very strong principle of wanting to treat all 5 children the same that is important to me.