Update;
The whole process was quite draining for me and DD.
Firstly I made the complaint to the head teacher who just kept the party line and at the complaint update meeting said the teacher could not recall calling my daughter a floozy, but worse he said the girl witness who had heard and been there had told him she had not heard the floozy word until afterwards when my daughter told her; effectively calling my daughter A liar! So I then made the complaint to the Governor but by the time the head Governor reported to us, it was a week before the end of the summer term so nearly 4 months after the teacher had called my daughter a floozy. We recorded the meeting and for the first 27 mins she defended the school, kept saying we want you to know that we are not saying we do not believe you ( to my daughter), but the teacher does not recall saying it..and then briefly the mask slipped and she said at the end that the teacher had said it. When I raised this with her and questioned why the school had repeatedly said he did not recall saying it and actually the head teacher even saying my daughter never seemed to be upset when she was talking to the teacher; the Governor ignored my requests and I have not hear back from her.
So lastly I then raised it to Ofsted , and the LEA investigated it and told me the school had done nothing wrong. So I complained to the manager to say a lot of my questions had not been answered. He then took control and in October I received a letter from him. In it he said he believed the teacher had called my daughter a floozy and gave his reasons, and in regards the school saying the witness has not heard what My daughter had, they re-interviewed her and she had heard it and said she gave the same account initially. In the letter he said the school said there was a misunderstanding by the head teacher when he initially interviewed her ' and the school regretted this', although he could find no evidence that there had been a cover up.
The school never responded to that and have never apologised to me or my daughter. I thought long and hard in the summer holidays while this was still going on as at that point I really wanted to move her school, but as she would be going into year 11 and GCSEs, I thought it might harm her GCSEs so regretfully now, I kept her there.
In September, the bullying started again, but she was adamant that she did not want it reported as she felt they again would not believe her. This was really traumatic for me to watch and I again blamed myself
In November she was pulled out of a class by a male teacher with a boy. The teacher asked the boy which school bus he got and then told him to go back to the class. He then told me daughter that he wanted the names if all those vaping and drinking alcohol on the bus. My daughter felt pressured so gave the names, but as soon as she got back into the class the boy had told the others it was something to do with the bus. When those who were doing it got into trouble they started calling my daughter a grass and were bullying her on the bus. I immediately contacted the school and said it was unacceptable that they selected her and pulled her out of a class. The teacher then came back with his version, again denying my daughter's account and said she had willingly came to him and gave him the names
At that point I thought we are never going to be told the truth, and was hoping we could make it to the end of the summer term 2024 and then move her for her A levels.
Then in early December last year the bullying had got out of control and she was being hit and pushed and being called names like homeless gypsy.
I told DD she had to report it but she refused, so I called the school and asked to speak to a female teacher. She was horrified and when I explained how bullying had been dealt with previously she said she would deal with it and it would be dealt with sensitively this time.
....I believed her!
So I persuaded DD to talk to her. At that meeting which was three days before the Xmas break there were two female teachers. Apparently one started to have tears in her eyes when DD was telling her what she had been suffering.
Ans then on her way home DD called me in tears to say her friends who had been in another class that afternoon told her a make teacher ( who turned out to be the same male teacher who had previously pulled her out of class about the vaping), had walked in to the class and sent the boys out and actually name my daughter as the girl being bullied( after promises it was going to be dealt with sensitively), which DD said was completely humiliating and led to more bullying. I immediately complained and asked for someone else to investigate it due to the lies we had been told in the past. Within 2 hrs I was told the teacher had not called her name without asking for the evidence we had which suggested our version was true. This led to the teacher investigating send me two attacking and personal emails that night and one being sent at 00.30 ( on the last day of school before Xmas). He basically put the blame on me and said if the school was this bad why I had kept my daughter there, and effectively said I was not setting a good example to my child.
i contacted The safeguarding lead for the County on the last day and by this time was crying down the phone with how frustrated I was with everything and how My DD was still being bullied. I sent the emails sent from the teacher and he did say they 'were not ok' and the teacher after his first email when I had asked he must init contact me again, then emailed me in the middle of the night to attack me again , was unprofessional.
This was on my mind for the whole Xmas break. I did respond to the school to say it was unacceptable.
I initially put in a complaint but wrote to Ofsted to say due to the stress and impact on my mental health and knowing what the schools response would be after last time, I have walked away from all communications with the school.