11 plus support thread 2022

[PalindromemordnilaP]

Anyone else have a DC sitting 11+ this Autumn?

If so, would you like to chat on a support thread?

DD is sitting her exam tomorrow.

Anyone else? Waiting for the results will be nail-biting.

Good luck to your dd, went through all this last year (feels like years ago 😂)... The wait for results will feel like a long time (think we only had 2 week wait but it was definitely the slowest 2 weeks!)

Best of luck to your DC. My DS did his this week and I honestly spent most of the time trying not to cry. I feel so guilty for choosing an area that has the Grammar system and putting him through this. I should have just moved somewhere with normal comps.

Now the long wait for results. I don't even know when they come out!

Hello! DS is sitting for a grammar school, Tiffin. He sat the Sutton test and passed the first round but we aren’t pursuing it. If he doesn’t get into Tiffin we decided against private and he will go to local comp.
I lurch from feeling sick with nerves, to feeling so so proud of him, he’s just worked so hard and been so cheerful and lovely through it all. I am actually confident he’ll be fine wherever so it’s just a question now of whether Tiffin are lucky enough to snap
him up! (That’s the emotion of this moment anyway, in a minute I’ll be raging at the whole stupid system (which no one forced my to participate in)).

how’s everyone DC holding up emotionally?

Thank you and good luck to your DCs. I'm also feeling the 'guilt' about living in a GS area.

We did our best to give DD a relaxing evening, so that she gets a good night's sleep tonight. I however, can't sleep!

DD has her heart set on the GS and is very capable, but has issues with anxiety so I'm lying awake worrying that she'll have an awful time with her nerves and come out upset.

Our results come out on 22nd October, which feels like ages away.

My DD is sitting tomorrow (today?!?) too - I suspect it might be the same one.

I've tried to be super cool Friday eve but I must be anxious as I've woken up in the night!

I'm not overly sure about or second choice either as the grammar school system polarises things a lot.

I know what you mean about "the guilt." I'm currently worried all her friends will get in and she won't and have to spend Yr 6 knowing that!

I know she can do well it's just all down to how they do on the day isn't it?!

Huge good luck to your DD ChocolateElephant.

Are you in Yorkshire by any chance?

Sleep is not coming for me tonight.

Oh no not Yorkshire! Very South. More than one region testing today then!

I am not consciously anxious at the moment... but I can't sleep 🙄. Seems so much rests on just one morning at 10 years old!

I can't sleep at all. Managed a couple of hours until 2am, been awake since.

It really does!

I'm going to get up shortly, have a shower, out make up on and cover up any stress that I have to stop it rubbing off on DD. She has to be at the school at 8:30am

8.10 here! I've only drifted in and out of being awake the last few hours. Hoping a shower will wake me up and I can look chill and positive - here we go.... Good luck!

DD has hers today and has been up since 6. She's been brilliant about it,no fuss and got on with the practice papers. It all boils down to how she performs on the day. She's had 2 mock tests in exam setting and has been fine. I'm so nervous for her. Good luck to all the kids sitting the exam and waiting for results.

Begonia sounds similar to us - she's done "well" in the formal mocks with some variation between the papers but firmly in the right area.... but who knows how today will go 🙈.

DD did amazing in one arranged mock and was predicted a 'strong likelihood' of securing a place, then sat a second mock, had a panic midway through and completely bombed it. She didn't finish half of the questions.

She score highly when we do practice papers at home, but it could go either way.

Good luck to your DDs!

When do their results come out?

Good luck to all of your DC.

DD is sitting on Monday. She scored good in Mock test. But she is under weather , I am panicking but if she gets more worse and could not sit in exam

Oh no, I hope she recovers Tea!

DS sat 11+ last Sat in our area, came out calm, happy and chilled, but definitely knows he didn't complete one of the papers so I'm not holding out much hope (super selective in our area), am very proud of him though and also kind of proud of myself for not letting my intense stress show so he could stay calm, this thread is just what I need! Was on one last year too for my DD, she got a place on offers day, suspect I'll be playing the waiting list game this year. Scores out on 16th Oct, seems a hundred years away, and I'll be filling the time by looking round every other local school I can think of to attempt to sort a robust plan B. Catchment school is really awful so hoping to avoid if at all possible, but I need to also really understand what I'm working with if it becomes inevitable so I'm ready to support and get the best put of it. DS is autistic which adds a new level of stress this year! Thank goodness next year I have a year off before final DC lol.

Good luck to your dcs

@tea1tea2 if your dc is too unwell, they have alternative dates for the test (if they cannot sit it on Monday).

@PalindromemordnilaP I think we are close by, ds attends a grammar in Yorkshire.

Just dropped DD off. I was very proud of how she held it together to walk in. There were some very upset children in the crowd, which worsened my guilt, even though it wasn't DD.

I think October will be one of the slowest moving months @ElvenDreamer! Looking round plan B sounds like a good way to cope though.

We only have one plan B option and DD didn't like it.

I dropped mine off! Feels weirdly emotional.

We're really not keen on the plan B (but aren't saying that to her!)

oh thank you , i did not know whether this is possible

@ElvenDreamer I remember reading your posts on the thread last year (I had different username 😂)- we were the ones who put grammar as second choice and ended up with place at the grammar.

Hope your dd has settled in well, and hope it all goes well with your DS (they always do far better than they let on 😊)

Just waiting to pick DD up now...

Hope all has gone well @PalindromemordnilaP and good luck to all others with DC sitting today.

@FirstNameAndSurname yes I remember your posts from last year! Is your DS happily settled? Secondary has been a real baptism of fire for the parents I've found (sims, parentpay, sorting transport, goodness know what else lol) but DD is so so happy, if there had been any doubt over having picked the right first choice it has been firmly allayed. Obviously we are still in the honeymoon period as it were, but school are going out of their way to really push their emphasis on pastoral and extracurricular too which has been lovely to see in action as that can be the fear for a grammar I guess, that it would be highly academic to the exclusion of all else. So yes, very happy, hoping for somewhere half as decent for my wonderful quirky DC 2 now!

DD came out smiling and thinking that it went well, then later started to second guess herself and became stressed again.

Now begins the waiting.

@ElvenDreamer it's good to hear your DD has settled well, and good luck for your DS ( I'm
Sure he has done well 😊)
DS has settled in well, and in hindsight I think this was probably better for him, so it's all worked out well in the end (heard some concerning things about our first choice recently!)

@PalindromemordnilaP good luck, I'm sure she's done well, we had the same. At first all I heard was, it went well, and then as the days went by, DS started to tell me how maybe he hadn't read such and such correctly.

It's such a huge ask, and I think just sitting the exam is a huge achievement.

Good luck to everyone's dcs