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Suspension woes

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StressyTimes · 17/09/2022 02:20

Any help gladly received - will try not to drop feed but do yea t to be too outing

My sisters teenager has been suspended from school for 3 days (currently serving) after inappropriate language to an older female pupil who made a complaint

My DN apologised at the time of the incident as realised they had said something wrong - not that this makes it right but the complainee fid not seem bothered by action

DN had a good record at the school

My sister feels that the punishment is too harsh for what was said and Is not fair -feels his good record is tarnished and that when he returns he will end up being singled out left right and centre

Anyone have any words of advice I can give her ?

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Endlessdays · 17/09/2022 12:51

If you are both taking it incredibly seriously, then why is your sister querying the 3 days? I don’t understand.

His teachers will see an E on the register. They won’t automatically be told the exact reason why, although your sister will presumably have had a letter detailing the nature of the exclusion which will probably say something general like ‘sexual behaviour towards another pupil’ which will be on his file. However they may hear from other pupils as there were witnesses.

But it will be forgotten about, if he does not behave like this again.

BeaLola · 17/09/2022 13:06

PaulGallico · 17/09/2022 12:25

SEN is a drip feed - just adding more to the story. It still does not make the 3 day suspension inappropriate. However if it is the case then there is still work to do with DN and his DM needs to step up rather than minimising.

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Despairingof · 17/09/2022 13:10

I think the punishment is very appropriate in illustrating how unacceptable the comment was. If he’d just had a reprimand it would have reinforced the message that it didn’t really matter. If he said this as an adult he’d likely and rightly be fired so he needs to learn rapidly.

CrotchetyQuaver · 17/09/2022 13:11

That was an absolutely disgusting thing to say, 3 days suspended is very lenient IMO. How would you or your sister feel if some random in your workplace you vaguely knew by sight came up and said that to you.

The boy is lucky the girl's brother or father didn't come and punch his lights out have a quiet word with him about appropriate behaviour.
Hopefully he's learned his lesson.

Harridan1981 · 17/09/2022 13:20

noblegiraffe · 17/09/2022 12:44

Teachers will be able to see he is excluded as he will be marked E on their register. If I went into the behaviour section to find out why it would probably say something like 'Sexual harassment (pupil)'.

Teachers may also hear from the kids.

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Depending on their system next year it will nit necessarily be visible on the register system, but will be on his main record.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/09/2022 14:14

StressyTimes · 17/09/2022 12:30

I'm. Not good at titles but as it was to do with a suspension thought that should go in the title

We are taking it incredibly seriously and I cannot stress enough how concerned we are that he said this and how it's been handled by the school - by that point I don't mean that he got suspended but the manner in which they advised my sister - some details I cannot give as outing

I do appreciate everyone's comments and advice etc

Will all school staff be told he is suspended or just the ones who teach him ?

Will the exact reason for the suspension be stipulated to all teachers or that he is "suspended" only

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If you had an shy 11 year old just join year 7 two weeks ago, would you rather it was assumed he was 'just being friendly' if he was seen to approach her?

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