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Should I let my child listen to music whilst doing revision?

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skz5 · 14/10/2021 17:28

My girl is 15. Her mocks are coming up in November so she's currently trying her hardest to revise. I found her listening to music whilst revising so I took it off her so she could concentrate. About 15 minutes later she came into the living room looking really deflated and she explained how listening to music makes her want to do her revision and it makes it enjoyable. I took it off her because I wanted her to focus but she's telling me that she can't and she feels really unmotivated to carry on studying. What should I do? Should I let her listen to music which makes her actually want to do revision or was I right by taking it away from her to help her focus but makes revision a chore and makes her hate it?

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KitchenKrisis · 22/10/2021 18:40

As pp have stated its not up to you to decide what works for her or not and taking her music away is actually taking away her sense of self, sense of autonomy and self esteem.
Unfortunately it's dc who are treated like this go into have or already have major mh issues, a lack of control over one's life to this degree can spark anorexia, because controlling food is the only thing they can, or self harm etc.

I reckon you need to take a huge massive step back. She sounds like a good girl who is studying.. I'd profusely apologise to her for undermining her, say you only want her to do it well and you are sorry she can revise how she wants.

However, remind her that the exam room will be silent. Good luck op, I hope you are able to back track enough to undo any damage. Flowers

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