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Daughter wants fo change her first name in gcse year

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 12:38

Hi my daughter is going into year 11, she wants to change her first name by deed poll she has always disliked it, i said she has to wait until shes 16 and can do it without our permission, thats in november, now im worried will this cause problems with her gcses, or should i change it for her now befire they go back to school?, i dont want her to change it at all, but she will in a couple of months regardless, thanks for reading

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DragonLegs · 23/08/2021 12:39

I’d change it now if she wants to and is going to anyway.

OverTheWater · 23/08/2021 12:44

Makes little difference really. I changed my first name at 21, I just provide my deed poll as well if anyone queries it on asking for my gcse/ a level / etc certificates. As long as she has the paper trail she'll be fine.

54321nought · 23/08/2021 12:46

change it now, and get her adult name on her GCSE certificates, its a pita if she doesn't

actiongirl1978 · 23/08/2021 12:48

It doesn't have an impact on her GCSEs. Her entries will be made in February so as long as its changed and on the school system by then, she will have her new name on her certificates.

FelicityPike · 23/08/2021 12:57

@actiongirl1978

It doesn't have an impact on her GCSEs. Her entries will be made in February so as long as its changed and on the school system by then, she will have her new name on her certificates.
This. Non issue really.
NowEvenBetter · 23/08/2021 12:59

Why do you still not want her to change it after that thread you got roasted on? Your taste in names is dire, let her get a decent name herself.

EllieNBeeb · 23/08/2021 12:59

Are you making excuses because you don't want her to change it? She has hated the name her whole life, let her change it. You've told her her whole life you were going to let her, do you really want to be that much of a liar?

Branleuse · 23/08/2021 13:04

Depends. Do you think its a name thats likely to last. Has she been using the name long term?

Mushtullo · 23/08/2021 13:04

Did you post about this recently? She wants to change from Codi or Kodi to Rose?

ChnandlerBong · 23/08/2021 14:25

just go ahead and change it now. then she starts the new year with a new name.

if she's always hated it and still does then you're not going to win this one.

OwlBasket · 23/08/2021 14:29

Is this Kody -> Rose? Just help her get it changed already, poor petal.

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 15:10

I think your confusing me with someone else iv never posted about this iv only joined today

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 15:12

I think you have me confused with someone else iv never posted before, and iv never said she could change it iv always said no

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 15:13

No iv only joined today her name is madi

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 15:13

A couple of years now

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OwlBasket · 23/08/2021 16:14

Ah, that’s an unfortunate coincidence then! Here’s the thread people are referring to: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4322834-To-not-let-my-daughter-change-her-name?msgid=109941431might make an interesting read.

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Kidsall · 23/08/2021 16:45

Ahh thats interesting thankyou, mine is 15, 16 in november, i fully understand, she will change it, i just dont know wether to cave in and let her do it before they go back to school or make her wait until november, i dontcwant her to change it but i respect her wishes, she gets away with far to much and i wanted to stand my ground until november but then worry it will cause issues with gcses, x

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Tal45 · 23/08/2021 17:11

I'd just get it done, it's going to happen so might as well get it done now. Why drag her misery out.

SeasonFinale · 23/08/2021 17:23

I would do it sooner rather than later.

OnTheBenchOfDoom · 23/08/2021 22:47

Do it now before she starts year 11 and then she can be the new name before she goes back.

Far easier to start the new year with the new name than have it changed in November. Just because you like the name doesn't mean she has to.

Revengeofthepangolins · 25/08/2021 13:54

But there isn’t any a problem with gcse doing it at any point next term.

evianlion · 25/08/2021 14:01

@Kidsall

Ahh thats interesting thankyou, mine is 15, 16 in november, i fully understand, she will change it, i just dont know wether to cave in and let her do it before they go back to school or make her wait until november, i dontcwant her to change it but i respect her wishes, she gets away with far to much and i wanted to stand my ground until november but then worry it will cause issues with gcses, x
Respectful would be enabling her to make the change now rather than forcing her to wait until her birthday to make some kind of petty point.

Forcing someone to use a name they hate is cruel.

Revengeofthepangolins · 25/08/2021 15:08

The other thread is quite funny - a great mix of people soberly discussing freedom and choice and others just hating on the name KotySmile

HellonHeels · 25/08/2021 15:14

Is that her full name and spelling? Does she get called Mad-eye at school? Can't be much fun for her.

Just let her change it. If she 'gets away with far too much' why not crack down on the important things instead of being stubborn about something that impacts her every day and she has a simple means of changing?

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Kidsall · 25/08/2021 17:10

Thankyou for all your replies, we went to a cafe today to discuss it and iv decided to allow her to change it now x

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