Genuinely, I’m not “against” any system of education. I spent 50% of my own education in the state system and 50% in the private. I enjoyed both and made lifelong friends in both.
My observation, and that’s all it is, is that kids get pushed v hard to achieve in exams and frankly I’m sceptical that this has much correlation with life success. I personally think education is just a good thing full stop - it makes life far more interesting and satisfying, but if you think getting a first in Maths from Cambridge (just to pick a degree at random) is going to change the life chances of your off-spring, frankly I think you have got it wrong. I have worked with many people who have achieved exactly that and they are not notably happier or more successful than people of similar intelligence who left school at 16. In fact they are usually considerably less successful.
My point is simply that parents seem to feel themselves in some sort of arms race to get their kids to THE school, and then THE university, as if that is going to make everything “happy ever after” - and it really won’t.
Having guts, integrity and a great attitude is about 100x more important, but nobody ever seems to talk about that. It’s just all about SATS.
It feels as if, as parents, we have got it badly wrong and we are misleading our kids - and I say that as someone who is massively into maths as a hobby and who spends a lot of time talking to my kids about maths.