My youngest got a detention for eating on the school field, banned 1 week previous, never been banned before. Yes he did the crime and we told him off and he did the detention. But we as parents pointed out in emails to head of year, was a detention really the best way of dealing with it because it seemed a petty and harsh punishment.
Even head of year said it was disheartening to give detentions out to normally well behaved kids, and some of those did give rude replies too.
There is a rule.
Child breaks rule.
Appropriate sanction from behaviour policy is applied.
For any behaviour policy to work in a school there has to be consistency.
You can't have a behaviour policy that says 'follow instructions' only to say Sarah gets a sanction for whispering in a test but Charlotte doesn't, that Timmy gets a sanction for eating on the field but your child doesn't.
It is disheartening when I have to give a sanction to an otherwise wonderful child. But we can all make mistakes and me applying a sanction isn't a reflection on how I view the child.
As a member of staff I could take or leave a couple of rules/requirements at my school, but the second I stop following it I'm making life harder for colleagues maintaining standards because suddenly it isn't a standard.
I think what people maybe need to see is that following the rules and school behaviour policy doesn't make an individual member of staff some horrible draconian person who is cold and hates children. It is entirely possible to be consistent and caring.
(I'm speaking generally here by the way, not getting into 'rules people don't like that schools have')
P.s. I love that you called school for a chat about it but kept that between you and the
school. 👍