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DS Expelled - drugs

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TapasGirl · 18/12/2016 10:16

I have posted this in Parenting but see from previous posters on here that others have had similar experiences and would like to draw on those experiences if anyone is able to help.
DS is going to be expelled tomorrow year 11 for selling drugs to another student.
DS' explanation is that he and friends (who have smoked weed on various occasions, as it has all come out now) put herbs into a bag to sell on as weed to make some cash.
The pupil he sold to realising it was herbs reported him to the Head. Subsequently everyone has been investigated and it looks as if the evidence against DS is strong. Also when he was investigaged by the Head he confessed to selling Weed to the other pupil

So he/we are in the shit basically and I don't know where to go from here.

I did email the Head of Friday when it all came out to say that we wanted to withdraw DS as I did not want his expulsion on his record.
Since having some good advice from the Parenting forum I have withdrawn that statement, to say we need to be more informed before taking him out.

I do not want him to go to a PRU. I know lots of people say how good they are; how they have turned others lives around etc. but he only has 20 weeks left to do GCSE's and I know this will not work for him. He struggles badly has had Ed Psych reports which School have had. I believe he is probably on the Aspergers spectrum. He struggles socially; eager to please; doesn't get consequences etc.

So tomorrow I want to ask the School to keep him on roll and I will give up my job to support him through his GCSE's at home. But I will need their support to do this as I am not exactly academically gifted myself but sure between us we can scrape through a couple of C's - if we are lucky.

Do you think this might work with the School. Or do you think they will just want him off their roll.

I am absolutley terrified of what is to become of him and am in a very bad place. Your advice (particularly if you have been where I am today) would be really appreciated.
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bojorojo · 04/01/2017 21:23

When a Head permanently excludes (or does a fixed term exclusion while an investigation takes place) they must give robust evidence to the Governor's committee who must review a PE. The Head decides to PE but the governors must be sure there is evidence to back up the decision . It is not a court though so the level of proof is lower. The fact that the school has not followed procedures is worrying. That this young man told a fellow pupil he was selling him dope is enough for a school to exclude. He intended to sell something which was possibly drugs but it could be seen as extracting money by fraud. Clearly an investigation should establish if the substance was herbs or not. The school is clearly not brilliant here but to say the school should do nothing if it turns out to be herbs is wrong. He told a child he was selling drugs to them and was prepared to do a fraudulent transaction if it was not. If the buyer was younger then that compounds the issue. Without knowing what has been unearthed by the investigation we cannot really be sure what should happen but the school is right to consider PE for what we know so far.