Boarding school

[Jakana]

My year 10 DS is refusing to go back to boarding school. He's in tears and says it does not matter what I say, he just won't go back.
He's not good academically at all and I've pleaded with him to at least try and he says he feels everyone else is better than him- I'm besides myself- what can I do? Should I let him have his way or not.?
(It is one of the most desired schools in the country). I'm devasted.

[whatatod0]

ok. Have not read through the whole thread, but I can share my experience with you.
DS - y9 - refused to go back to school after a half term. All sorts of hysterics, flat out refusal. This all started 30mins before leaving for school in the evening. I called HM who said leave it for the night and bring him back in the morning.
SO - I spend all the rest of the evening talking to ds. Eventually it all came out. Bullying. He'd been doing prep for another boy and giving him tuck as well. I called HM straight back and discussed the problem.
Outcome - ds stayed at home the following morning, but made it in for lunch after a long chat with HM. Actions were taken from the evening I first called, and things have settled down.
Please talk to your ds, and I really really hope it's nothing that can't be sorted out. The best schools can usually handle most problems as long as they know about them. Good luck.

[Scaredofthepianoexaminer]

Im wondering if OP has the support SHE actually needs in this instance.
I think this is perhaps what she needs to focus on