He attended a special school (behaviour) and got in to the local grammar. I don't know much about his family background but most of the children at the school came from the poorer areas and none would be described as middle class
Children can have behaviour problems from all backgrounds and they can have lovely parents!
My son is at a local grammar and there are some very wealthy children in his class and there are also a couple with 'blue collar' (for want of a better descriptor) backgrounds. The parents are certainly not disinterested nor neglectful. Our local builder's daughter also goes to the local grammar. Again, not middle class. There are probably more but I don't know them personally
You do not have to be middle class to support your child! As I said earlier, my DH's parents left school at 15yrs but they spent masses of time with their children, talking, reading, playing games, walking etc.
I think anyone would be hard pressed to name large numbers of poor, neglected children that miraculously go to grammar school and become successful overnight. That generally doesn't happen in the real world. Sadly the data I've now seen suggests that those children struggle whatever school they go to. As one of the posters on here has said, parents attitudes and support appear to be the main drivers of success
Very hard pressed I imagine!
Can I just add - a bright child who fails the 11+ doesn't necessarily have a 'neglectful parent'.
Of course they don't! My whole point as I know so many people who are very intelligent and failed and went on, despite all the disadvantages, to be Head teachers, a vicar, company directors etc. Failing made it all such a struggle-in the comprehensive it would not have been -they would just have risen up the sets. I know those thought of as 'dead certs' to fail.
3 sets of twins, of equal intelligence, to be either side of the divide.
Lots of siblings to be split-presumably the parents didn't support one more than another!
I really don't think all that tutoring makes a difference
Very strange when it is such big business-especially in 11+ areas! There are some who do it but wouldn't admit it and there are also those who would not pass on the name of the excellent tutor they use for their child!
I think there are many who think that in theory but dare not risk it in practice when everyone else is using a tutor.