What do your secondary aged children do once home from school?

[greeneggsandjam]

Mine seems to just go to sleep almost straight away, in full uniform. Perhaps having eaten something first and left bowls/plates/cups on floor in living room. Sleeps mainly in livingroom though occasionally in bedroom which is a permanent state. I arrive home to said mess with a good supply of wires around the floor from chargers etc. No matter how many times I complain it never changed. This lasts a good few hours if allowed.

Homework, horse riding, swimming training, internet, facebook a bit, listening to music and spending as little time with us as possible (younger sibling with SEN who is hard work)

I need to show this thread to dp who thinks our are abnormal!

Thefirstofhername, do you want to swap?? Even for a short while??

You wouldn't want to swap if you knew what they were like in the mornings!

DD1(16) comes in says hi. Sometimes chats about her day sometimes vanishes to her room.
DD2(13) toilet, "what's for Dinner" then she gets changed and races out to the trampoline if it's dry or her computer if it isn't

HW may get done after dinner, or it may get done it 6am or she may just get detention if it's German.

DD1 does her HW if she has any, but she her mates are at anther school and she often gets things done in break/lunch or in the bus when DD2 would be chattering to her friends.

DD1 face times and sees her friends in an evening.

Comes in the door
Strips off and changes into a teenty tiny crop top and a pair of mothercare 5-6 shorts (she's 14) cause 'she's allways hot'
Eats
Goes to her room and listens to music/watches youtube
Comes down for tea
Goes back up and eats from the secret pile of chocolate she doesn't think we know about
Falls asleep on her bed
Comes down for supper
Watches tv with me and dp
Eats more
Goes upstairs 'to bed' where she will twitter/youtube untill the early hours , presumably while eating .......
Ooh for teenager metabolism eh?

Dd (16) comes in and starts homework (on hols at mo) and then has supper before heading out for sports or acf mon-thou nights, Friday night is study night and sat and sun taken up with matches or acf

Ds (14) comes in and heads for the loo as he refused to use school toilets. Then trampoline or parkour until supper. Acf two nights a week, gymnastics once a week and weekend activities.

Ds (12) often goes to the park on his way home then has supper before homework. Sports training at least twice a week plus weekend matches. Xbox and mine craft between times

Me.....I eat, sleep and read in the car and dream about how much I'd be making if I was a paid taxi driver

Comes home.
Changes.
Eats everything that isn't nailed down, but shares with sister and best friend who comes home with her.
Plays on trampoline unless depth of winter.
Watches TV.
Loom bands.
Showers.
Has dinner with us.
Does homework.
Goes on Facebook and plays online games.
Moans about never catching me up on Candy Crush (she's right, she won't)
Goes up.
Reads.
Sleeps.

comes in, gets changed, Kerrang music channel on WAY too loud, does homework, shouts at sister, takes dog for a walk, helps make tea, shouts at me, cries, or jokes with me depending on time of the month, eat together, clear up together and watch some TV - Castle box sets on sky at the minute... or go swimming/table tennis before shower and going to bed between 9 and 10ish...

apart from the loud music and a bit of shouting, wouldn't change her for the world...

Mine come home, get changed and doss about.

Depends. Mixture of - homework, music practice, extra curricular stuff (music lessons, dance or theatre group), reading, minecraft, DS often has a shower before he does anything else. DD1 often does other creative stuff too - writing or songwriting - if she doesn't have HW or other stuff on. The telly usually goes on sometime after 7.30 depending on what else is happening - there's hardly ever anything during the week that they watch on broadcast (or at all) - off the top of my head the only things I can think of in the last year would be defiance and under the dome. Oh, and W1A. All of those are 9pm shows. They might watch live or recorded depending on what else was going on. The dr who repeats on Horror, watch and BBC 3 often get watched though, despite having them all in our iTunes library anyway. We usually tend to watch a box set episode when we watch as a family though, so it'll be an hour or an hour and a half of whatever before bed unless so much homework that the older ones can't fit it in (in which case we don't go on without them). We do try and sit down as a family together at least a couple of times a week to do that but with all the other stuff they have on it's often not more than that.

As I pick my two boys (just turned 14 and almost 13) up on the way home from school, we all get in together (about 4ish). They get changed, hang up the uniform on the floordrobe and head straight onto xbox, PS3, laptop etc. We have dinner about 5/5.30 and then they do any homework that they have been given and if they have no activities that evening and it's dry, then they get kicked out into the fresh air for an hour and then back to play computer games. Other eveings they get to go back on screen before Scouts/Lifeguards/Judo. They go to bed about 10/10.30 with lights out by 11 and get up about 7.30.

One day a week I drop them at the gym for an hour after school.

The theory and the deal is that if they do some exercise/get fresh air and do their homework then we don't otherwise limit the screen time (of course we are actually limiting it by the insisting on the eercise/fresh air and homework but they either don't really mind or haven't figured that out yet).

They rarely go out unprompted - friends do come in for them and they get dragged into whatever game they are playing.....unless I kick them all out again for a bit which I sometimes do (even if it is just a quick 15 minute cycle/scooter round the estate to give their eyes and heads a break)

Amazing the amount of you who have children who readily do their homework. Apparently the school my goes to is not big on homework as every time I ask about it he says he has none. I can honestly say I have very rarely seen any homework being done. He often claims to have done it at school. Hmm.

This is how I want the day after school to be:

Home
hang clothes over chair in bedroom/hang up/put in machine and get clean stuff out.
Do any washing up left from the morning.
Sit and rest for half an hour.
Do homework/hoover the livingroom
greet me when I get home
talk to me
get school bag ready for the next day
lay the table
eat with us
help clear table
wash or dry up
rest again/play on gadgets
talk to me again
watch tv/gadgets
go to bed and be asleep by 10pm so as to be up ON TIME for school.

greeneggsandjam that could be true. No1 son doesn't seem to have that much left to do at home as he says he does it at school. I think a lot of the homework seems to consist of finishing up or expanding what they were doing in class and he is a fast worker so has usually done it all!

He got marked perfect 6s for homework (and for effort) from every subject in his school report so I guess he isn't lying.

No2 son has a bit more to do as he is a bit more of a social animal - he got mostly 5s and 6s for homework (and effort too) so I'm happy enough with that.

Swim training morning and evening for DS (12) means eating, homework and music have to be prioritised straight after school. And he has to manage himself as we're not home til 6.
Leaves less time for Skype, Minecraft and general loafing around, but seems to manage plenty of that nonetheless!
I think having a structure focuses the mind. Homework in the week doesn't seem to take nearly as long as it does if he leaves it to the weekend, because he knows he's on the clock. Doesn't seem to affect the quality.

Come in, head straight for kitchen for after school snacks and drinks. Then usually some telly, unless have any after school activities - music lessons one night, sometimes dd goes to youth council. Have supper around 7pm and around then may start to think about homework which can turn out to be leaving it too late as occasionally can take to midnight to get it all done especially with dd(15) But she never seems to realise this is going to happen and still starts no earlier than about 6! Seems they just need that after school chill out time first before anything else much can happen.
However untidy we all are I do try to get them to take out bowls and cups. I think you need to be on their case with that as not good for them to think DM will do it all

ds also often out with his skate-board, bike, or uni-cycle up and down the road with neighbours (DC) - mainly on pavement and luckily we live in a cul-de-sac which has been good for playing out and making a little group of friends.

DD1, y10, basic routine is:

Home ~3.20
Change
Snack / Chat about day
Homework (~3:45->)
Tea
(Homework if needed)
Pack bag
Computer/TV
Bed

We've always had the rule that HW gets done before 'play'. She used to need a lot of help and I won't help later in evening, but DD1 doesn't like working past about 7pm anyway (even in the run up to exams). School-friends don't live nearby.

DD (15)

-Comes off the bus at about 5ish, if not doing sport (normally twice a week on the bus)

• Takes uniform off
• Goes for a run if weather is reasonable
• Watches youtube, catches up on TV, social media till about 6ish (when I come home)
• Eats tea
• Does homework
• Has pudding
• Does more homework if needed/laptop/texting/more food
• Shower
• Goes to bed about 10ish

If she has sport she tends loose out on a lot of free time. She hangs out with friends during the weekend as we live out in the sticks

Am loving the floordrobe !! My DS has just squired one of those . My DS is going to be weekly boarding so I envisage my routine to be
Come home open bottle of wine , retire to sofa with full use of remote control bliss only 6 more weeks to go .... to weekday nivarna of course weekend a normal service of chaos will resume

Acquired !!

Yes, a floordrobe. My son has had one for a long time. I just didn't realise there was name for it. I may as well get rid of the actual wardrobe, its taking up far too much floor space which would be well utilized as a larger floordrobe.

Yes, the clothes seem to spend all their time either in the futility room being washed and ironed or on the floordrobe getting dirty and crushed :(

At 14 I came home and started the dinner, did a load if laundry then did my homework.

My dd starts secondary school in September and I expect it'll be similar to what she currently does - pretend she doesn't have homework, snack lots and stare at screens of some sort.