I hear all you say and thank you for ideas and time.
I suspect I am the only person in the country with a grade 5 (sign the paper in those distant years ago) CSE in maths and ended up with a degree mainly in maths. I was actually put off by the reaction of the boys when I came first and vowed never to let that happen again. Most of my education happened after school. I would like to think things are better for girls now.
Loads of people could be good at maths they just don't get the encouragement needed.
Yep, I could teach it to him myself and actually have had to do that with some of the GCSE Maths because his set seemed to miss some topics out. I'll never forget his face when he succeeded with the sine and cosine rule having said "You might as well not bother Mum". I was astounded. This is easy peasy stuff as he was shown. The school should have succeeded. There are no excuses.
Anyway, not too keen on making him different from his peer group by teaching him at home. Why shouldn't the school teach him. They get the money from the Taxpayer.
His problem was that he was 2 marks off a Level 5 on leaving primary and got stuck in a boring middle set for 5 years steadily losing confidence. Confidence can grow, but not if you are with negative people who don't really want to teach the subject as often happens in primary schools.
It was good doing maths revision with him we got quite close as we knocked off one topic after another, but if you do it this way you never get the level of practice the top sets have because you're still teaching it. We tackled every formula on the Physics paper and he came home so happy I knew he'd got his A* module before the results arrived. Maths can be done - you just need to know the missing steps they often don't show you in the book. The CGP Maths tutor booklet with DVD is very, very good. They talk you through the missing steps. Many thanks.
I have tried the local college. They answered, but the woman there couldn't get anyone to answer their extension. Helpfully she gave me a mobile number, but the number didn't exist!!!
Still one way or another he will probably end up being an Engineer as is father and eldest brother. Son did very well getting high B from the middle set he was in. Well done boyo!!