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The Big Choice: the State school or the private one - are we thinking with our wallets??

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scampadoodle · 01/03/2013 13:19

Ok, just to add to all the other threads like this today.

DS1 got into the private school he/we liked, but no scholarship. We will also almost certainly have a place at the local state school.

PS is lovely, not super-hot house, but high-achieving. Fees are a lot though & would have an impact on our family life (and we'd really feel it if DC2 went private too). It's about 45 mins, an hour journey each way. He would probably enjoy it there & hopefully it would polish him off a bit. I'm slightly worried that it leans more towards humanities than sciences (not good for DS1) BUT I could be wrong about this as it was just an impression I got on Open Day.

SS is great. Streaming. Latin. It has a very mixed intake but those who do well, do well IYSWIM. It's only been good for 2-3 years though, before that it was awful. If he knuckled down DS1 would do well (that is a big 'if' BTW). I do like the idea of sticking within the local community though, & we could afford tutoring if we felt he needed topping-up.

But are we just being stingy at not taking up the opportunity for the private school? The thought of not having to worry abut school fees is very very tempting...

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RussiansOnTheSpree · 08/03/2013 14:39

Sorry Lainiekazan I was replying to happy who said (to you) you seem to think that most state schools wouldn't even have or for that matter want a debating club?!

I took it that she was representing your view rather than misunderstanding it, this obviously meant that I misunderstood it too.

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 08/03/2013 14:46

Russians - and the luxury of being unnerved by things sounding a bit like dies irae..... sigh Grin Wish I'd of 'ad a Neducation.....

Kenlee · 08/03/2013 14:46

creamteas

Why would I want to pay for my daughter to attend such a private school? The reason why I choose a private education is so I can select which private school best fits her. State schools do not give you that choice.

Futher more I would also like my daughter to not only be an exam machine but to be exposed to many different things. A boarding school offers all these opportunities to help her develop.

I understand some state schools do well...and I am happy for you that your children are in a good state school.

RussiansOnTheSpree · 08/03/2013 15:04

Nit - things that should be compulsory: 1. Latin. 2. Lord Peter Whimsey. 3. How they brought the good news from Ghent to Aix 4. How to spot a spy 5. Gondal.

seeker · 08/03/2013 15:07
  1. How to be nice to your sisters, however unappealing. 7. Basic feminism. 8. A working knowledge of the Tradentine Mass and the Manichaean heresy.
RussiansOnTheSpree · 08/03/2013 15:16

But we don't know anyone who would pass 6. :( TrIdentine.

As an aside - I always thought the Merricks were being a bit silly. Never got why they were all so hot under the collar. then they changed some of the words again last year, new translation blah blah just a rouse to sell new missals I reckon. But it's meant getting new hymn books too and all the new hymn books have wrong hymns in them. And I am going all Merrick so I am. All 'if it was good enough for my mum....' Grin

seeker · 08/03/2013 15:31
Blush

I can spell, honest. After all, I did LatinGrin. No idea where that came from!

seeker · 08/03/2013 15:32

Actually, it was obviously a Feudian spelling mistake -trad-dentine, geddit?

wordfactory · 08/03/2013 15:35

pooka that's grand you have such a great choice. How very nice for you...doesn't much help kids in neck of the woods though.

Unless you have cash. Which I do. So...

seeker · 08/03/2013 15:40

I can see the argument for being allowed to buy the education you want, obviously. How about you can do it, but politicians can't? I just fundamentally dislike the way education divides the nation, and perpetuates privilege.

Bonsoir · 08/03/2013 15:45

You might find it distasteful, seeker, but the alternatives are so much worse.

wordfactory · 08/03/2013 15:48

I'm none too keen on that either seeker to be honest.

But it's a balance. And my DC's eductaion wins out.

seeker · 08/03/2013 15:50
Bonsoir · 08/03/2013 15:53

You are an adult and free to renounce the values inculcated in your childhood.

wordfactory · 08/03/2013 15:59

Ah seeker I'm currently writing a novel where the Aberfan disaster plays a prominent part...

The thing is most state schools really aren't that bad, are they?

And even if we private school parents did use our local schools, whose to say that we should import our educational values? Who says we're right? It's clear from MN that a lot of folks just don't want it...and who am I to say they're wrong?

seeker · 08/03/2013 16:06

"You are an adult and free to renounce the values inculcated in your childhood."

Why would I want to? The mean spirited, looking after number one mindset currently driving our national identity isn't getting us anywhere very much, is it?

Bonsoir · 08/03/2013 16:14

It's European social democracy that is causing us to fall behind, seeker.

racingheart · 08/03/2013 16:25

Feud-ian is a good Freudian slip too Seeker. Sigmund would be proud.

seeker · 08/03/2013 16:27

GrinGrin

happygardening · 08/03/2013 17:11

"I am always amused that it's other people's children that most people think would benefit from practical, hands on subjects!"
I be happy for my DS too learn some practical skills.

"Philosophy is available at many state schools- lots of kids do A level philosophy."
Why do it A level wouldn't it be more interesting just to do any of these things just for the sake of it. This is one of the problems with education in this country its always has to be attached to exams the quickest way to put a child off IMO.

wordfactory · 08/03/2013 20:48

Thing is, I can teach my DC to cook and put up shelvesv and change a tyre but physics and German, not so much.

It's not that I mind them learning practical skills but if there's a choice to be made, I'd rather they learned practical stuff at home.

Bonsoir · 08/03/2013 20:56

I send my DD on courses where she learns practical things - sure, she does so at home and with my parents, but there's always someone who can go beyond our range of skills. Plus learning languages - of which I have no doubt she will do a great deal - is very productively combined with sewing, cooking etc.

Copthallresident · 08/03/2013 20:58

wordfactory You have not known the joy of having a child who has done RMT in the household, I actually can put a bookshelf up, but not like they can, and as for changing lightbulbs, whatever the electrical challenge I can leave it to them.

Bonsoir · 08/03/2013 21:01

As for putting up shelves or changing a tyre versus Physics - DP is unbelievably useless at manual labour (fortunately my father can show a better example) despite impressive muscles that ought to shame him into at least trying, but is redeeming lay gifted at Physics and Maths. What you outsource really just depends on your own weaknesses!

happygardening · 08/03/2013 22:49

Even though I cook reasonably well I'd still like my DS to learn basic cooking skills at school. I have gone through my whole life unable to put up a shelf and frankly dont see why he needs to be able to do this but can wire up a plug at a pinch and can not only change a wheel on a car I doubt few can change the tyre as this requires specialist equipment I can also do the oil water check the brake pads air filter oil filter and much to the surprise of the RAC man check and correctly change the fuses oh and let's not forget the essential for all clapped out car drivers correctly jump it! I'm an expert at basic car first aid!!
I think all children before they leave school should undertake a basic child protection course (level 1) because as a society we have a moral requirement to protect children so therefore we all need to know what to look out for and what do to if we're concerned.
Again enthusiastic parents/teachers/local do gooders could teach many of these skills I don't see that money is necessarily required.