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Does your Y7 change into home clothes after school?

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Dumbwaitress · 20/09/2012 20:54

Probably a daft thing to be asking, again, but since starting in Y7 my daughter refuses to get changed after school; even if we go swimming later on she'll go in it and get changed back into it all afterwards, which I just worry is a bit odd and must also be both uncomfortable. What do others' children do?

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Dumbwaitress · 21/09/2012 19:04

Hmm, I do appreciate the saving on washing thing, though by the time she's worn shirts for 16 hours a day she has to have a fresh one each day whereas if she took it off when she got home it might last for another day.

I just don't understand how she's comfortable wearing a shirt and tie all day and all evening too

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rubyrubyruby · 21/09/2012 19:32

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amck5700 · 21/09/2012 19:39

ruby - I agree - they don't always want to but they get told and they do it :)

seeker · 21/09/2012 19:45

Why should they get changed if they don't want to?

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 19:57

Because thems the rules seeker :)

You come home and get changed in my house - when they move out they can stay in their stuff all day if they want.

The only reason they don't want to get changed sometimes is because they can't be bothered. The OH and I like us all to have a clear separation between work (or school) and free time. Changing clothes helps draw the line.

I also won't have them out playing in their uniform and it's also much comfier to have casual clothes on.

Knowsabitabouteducation · 21/09/2012 22:06

I can understand enforcing rules, but not pointless ones.

marriedinwhite · 21/09/2012 22:18

Why do they need to change. DH wears a suit and tie all day and gets home at may be 8ish. He doesn't change or take his tie off. Mine kept their uniform on all through primary. They needed clean clothes teh following day and if they had changed into a tee shirt that would have needed to be washed as well. Primary uniform is one of the cheapest forms of children's clothing so why would one bother changing because of the washing.

DS at almost 18 does change now; usually into sports stuff and it just means two lots of washing. DD is sitting in her uniform right now (14). Not a problem in my opinion; she has a clean blouse every day anyway

numptymark1 · 21/09/2012 22:24

I used to stay i my shirt and tie until bed time when I was in high school

I still don't get changed when I get in from work

far too much faff

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:24

How is it pointless?

I don't want them ruining their school clothes - we both work full time - I really don't want to be washing and ironing 5 pairs x 2 of school trousers every week - I don't mind buying 5 shirts for No1 son and 5 polo shirts for No2 son, as they are cheap. I am not buying 10 pairs of trousers at 12 quid a pair so that I can leave it till the weekend rather than the two pairs each I currently buy. Because they change out of them when they come home, those two pairs will last all week usually. No 1 son hasn't worn his school jumper yet as he hasn't felt cold - at 20 quid, I've only bought one so it would help if he isn't lounging round the house or running about the street in it - same for No2 - he needed a different colour of sweatshirt for P7 so he has two which last him all week as he takes them off when at home.

Casual clothes are cheap especially if you catch the sales - hoodies were 7.00 from H&M, t-shirts a couple of pound and shorts and trousers or joggies well under a tenner. School shoes kept for school last all year, 2 pairs of school trousers last all year - it saves money to change, cuts down having to wash, dry and iron uniforms through the week and imo it looks nicer and feels more relaxed.

i also wont have them turning up at evening activities still in uniform or part uniform. It takes less than 5 minutes to change and hang up clean clothes and stick dirty ones in the laundry. It's not like I am getting them to paint the stones in the garden white.....that's pointless :)

member · 21/09/2012 22:29

She doesn't normally change (no blazer but does have collar & tie). In our case, changing would invariably create more washing because she seems incapable of eating her tea without spillage Hmm & she has a clean blouse everyday anyway.

Knowsabitabouteducation · 21/09/2012 22:29

What's going to happen to the school trousers between 4pm and 7pm?

If they spill their supper, teach them to use a napkin.

Unless you have dribbly boys, trousers do not show an extra three hours' wear.

rubyrubyruby · 21/09/2012 22:31

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GreenShadow · 21/09/2012 22:31

Nope, mine don't change unless actually going out somewhere.

But then they are passed the age where they get particularly mucky.

HoopDePoop · 21/09/2012 22:34

My favourite post on MN all day today is the poster who said 'we're not a wearing pyjamas round the house type of family'

Grin
amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:37

My boys are 12 and 11 so we are talking 4 ish until 10 ish - that's nearly as many hours as they are wearing the school trousers for - and as has been said, they will either go through the knees while out running about or in No2 sons case, rip the legs off in his bike chain (he now has to wear shorts most of the time :)), crumple them up by lounging about in them and, we have fairly new carpets at the moment so the black trousers get covered in fluff if worn about the house and finally, yes even at that age they spill stuff on them or wipe their dirty fingers on them.

marriedinwhite · 21/09/2012 22:38

Mine never dirtied trousers and skirts much. Two of each were always enough - and as for the knees - delete trousers - ds wore shorts until he was 11. Far more economical - knees just need a plaster and heal quite quickly. Even when it snowed.

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:38

Hoop, that would be me :o I have my standards dontcha know!!

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:40

married that would have suited me but they didn't go to a school where wearing shorts was "acceptable" - even in P1.

marriedinwhite · 21/09/2012 22:43

Neither did mine, he was just always hot and thought they were too itchy - and didn't really give too hoots about what anyone else thought - actually he set quite a trend Grin. No wonder he's ended up a bit indy.

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:45

...and re the pyjamas thing - we would be better with a revolving door in our house - everyone is in and out all the time - kids do activities, I do my shopping late as I work all day. We have neighbours in and out - kids friends in the house. It would be a rare night when we all come home and that's it for the night with no visitors so really being in pyjamas wouldn't work. Having said that it wouldn't be the first time I've seen people in the supermarket clearly dressed in nightwear!

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:46

married my son got bullied anyway so he may as well have been in shorts - shorts are also better if it rains, skin dries must faster than clothes :)

rubyrubyruby · 21/09/2012 22:51

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weegiemum · 21/09/2012 22:52

House rule here. Everyone changes out of school/work clothes.

Haven't had any trouble wiith dd1 refusing since she went to secondary.

amck5700 · 21/09/2012 22:52

......I don't actually own any pyjamas.

marriedinwhite · 21/09/2012 22:55

I don't think dh would be too impressed if he only ever saw me in my nightie.