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Change of school from Monday no uniform as yet advice can I contact the school on the weekends?

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Jan20112011 · 13/05/2011 22:52

Hello everyone just moving into a new area and due to the move stress and all that haven?t had chance to get the correct uniform from the approved supplier for my year 7 son as yet. No idea now what to do come Monday? Uniform seems quiet strict as opposed to more relaxed at his current school (from polo and jumper to blazer and tie). So any suggestions I?m torn between sending him in with his own clothes as opposed to his current uniform?

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cumbria81 · 14/05/2011 10:54

You can't send him in his old uniform! That's completely unfair - he will stick out like a sore thumb. Starting a new school mid term isn't easy at the best of times, don't make it any harder.

belledechocchipcookie · 14/05/2011 11:05

Look on the schol web site at the uniform and then go to John Lewis, buy a shirt, pair of trousers and a plain blazer. Job done. Get the PE kit when you know what the list is. Most lists are online on the school web site though.

cuckooclock · 14/05/2011 12:50

We thought we might have a problem when dd started her new school. They are strict on uniform and have a tartan skirt in school tartan. We went to uniform suppliers in plenty of time (8 weeks!) before term started. DD is really tall and we had to get a special order (everything else was bought). The shop messed up with the order and the skirt was late. I contacted the school who were very nice and suggested that dd just wore a plain navy skirt which she had. DD didn't want to stand out like a sore thumb so I phoned the shop again and they loaned her a skirt that was probably a bit too short but was ok until her one came in.

The school will more than likely be ok with this if you explain but obv your ds wont want to be different on his first day so just see what you can manage.

Jaspants · 14/05/2011 12:56

Ok what does the school website say about uniform?

Kit him out in as closest to it as you can, ask your neighbours what their DC wore to school - you never know they may have stuff that theirs have outgrown.

School is bound to have lost property - they may allow your DS to borrow this on Monday until he is sorted out.

ben5 · 14/05/2011 12:59

when we moved school I sent ds in white shirt and navy shorts. the school were very understanding. we had however moved from UK to Australia and he was in school within the week of us landing. The school uniform shop wasn't open till the friday pm and he started on the wednesday.

Waltons · 14/05/2011 13:20

You'll probably find that Matron (if the school has one) will have a spare blazer and tie that he can borrow. Take him in on Monday and ask. My DS's blazer was trashed by a delightful little bastard oik and we had to borrow one for a couple of days while the dry cleaners went to work on it.

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Jan20112011 · 14/05/2011 14:52

Anyone else got suggestions before I go to bed suppose I won?t even ask what will become of his faux hawk, think he more worried about his badges and stuff come the morning than anything." Did I say morning that?s what I get girls for posting at 1am but on another note given he has a dyed blone faux hawk still that he loves and the school rules are natural colour sort back and side going to have to break the news very soon this is going to be one unhappy boy very soon I feel awful. Less clear is I assume he will essentially loose the mass of badges for form rep and stuff he?s got on his old jumper i.e. he won?t be allowed to wear them, I feel like a bad mum ripping everything and everyone he knows away from him sob? As for the uniform have contacted school they said to send him in early in a plain white t shirt and black pants or his current uniform and they will see what they can do with him. I have a feeling he won?t be too happy with this but not a lot I can do other than to ride the rapids. At least things are going better with my daughter (primary).

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Jan20112011 · 14/05/2011 14:55

Sorry first bit was suppose to have " " round it what i said last night silly me!

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Jan20112011 · 14/05/2011 14:55

Oh and Waltons really trashed how?

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Waltons · 14/05/2011 15:12

Something nasty from the science lab, or possibly the art room. We never did find out what it was. The blazer is washable, but washing made no difference, so we took it to the cleaners and they sorted it. It didn't ever look the same, but we just about made do with it for a couple more terms.

Don't feel bad - we've all inflicted dreadful things on our kids due to force of circumstance (or sheer idiocy in my case ) - he'll cope and bounce back. I'm sure the school will try to sort the uniform out temporarily. Can you keep the old jumper and get a new one?

emilielondon · 14/05/2011 17:29

Please don't shout at me as my school makes the rules and I'm a lowly Head of Year but we send children home if uniform is incorrect or at least isolate them for the day. I would recommend keeping him off Monday and getting the uniform rather than send him in for a shaky or negative start. I guess the best thing to do is ring the school first thing mon and ask them which they'd prefer. The day may well go down as unauthourised though...

TeamLemon · 14/05/2011 17:43

DH is a secondry teacher. He says sending a child into school with another school's uniform is a baaaaaaaad idea. Surefire way of flagging up newbie status.
He thinks you should phone school first thing on Mondat morning (office will probably be open from 8am, or maybe even earlier) and see what the school says. Have smart trousers & shirt ready in case the school say he can go in and they have spare blazer/tie he can use.

LadyLapsang · 14/05/2011 19:48

I don't think you should send him in until he is properly kitted out. Someone once played a joke on my DS who was established & happy at his school, told him it was mufty day and he turned up in his own clothes. I had just got on the train, had to get off, collect him and drive back home 5 miles through London and then drive him back in again - he was so upset. Definitely don't set him off on the wrong foot, also if you buy something else you are just throwing money away as you will have to buy the correct kit later in the week.

I remember sewing on my son's name tags at 3am after we moved house so he would be ready for uniform inspection on the first morning. Why isn't the uniform shop open on Monday?

Blu · 14/05/2011 19:58

And sorry, but you definitley need to sort his hair out before he goes in. They may be cool about minimal uniform until the uniform shop opens up, but a dyed blonde faux hawk is going to cause real problems - did you mention that to the on the phone?

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Jan20112011 · 14/05/2011 20:55

Hello everyone, first may I say thanks for all the responses it?s really took the edge off my stress considering I?m new here I feel really welcomed. So to recap I called the school today and they said to send him in early in a plain white t shirt and black pants or his current uniform and they will try and make whatever he wears a tad more up to spec until it?s sorted. RE Walton?s what I mean is his going to be upset re not wearing his cherished badges everyday they were kind of part of who he was at the old place. No idea why the place isn?t open Monday confusing to me as the rest of you but literally we moved down here properly on Thursday so don?t really know a lot about the area hubby has a new job down here and we thought the move could be a good thing for the kids too. RE what you said Blu did speak to the school about their rules on hair today they firmly said nothing but natural shot back and sides will do. I just can?t bring myself it break it to him I feel like his whole identity and peer group has been erased by this move I let him have the faux hawk after he had been bullied to increase his confident and ?cool? factor with his friends he just needed something to smile about? I do hope he adjusts ok daughter is doing a whole lot better with it all so far. Been putting off telling him of the impending haircut but suppose tomorrow will have to be the day. What a nightmare this all is, shows you what will happen when you move your kids from a lax school area to a smart classy one I suppose opps my mistake!

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Loshad · 14/05/2011 21:50

you can't wait until tomorrow to tell him about the hair cut - or at least you shouldn't have - he'll need it cutting before monday. Honestly the school will think you are deliberatley taking the p... if you send him after them reiterating the hairstyle rules, and almost certainly will send him home again!

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Jan20112011 · 15/05/2011 13:10

Ok told him, feel such a bad mother right now he?s really upset considering the circumstances I allowed him to have it done. Gets sorted in an hour going to see if I can cheer him up before then wish me luck.

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nometime · 15/05/2011 13:20

I would go for the dark trousers and shoes with white shirt option and take him to the office and explain what you have done - more than likely there will be a spare tie lurking around there too. I am sure that they will be fine about it - any caring decent school isn't going to penalise a child because they legitimately don't have the complete uniform. It's stressful enough for him to move school without then going in midweek too.

mumblechum1 · 15/05/2011 18:00

Hope it goes ok tomorrow.

Blu · 15/05/2011 18:08

Oh, poor boy!

Tell him that the GOOD thing is that as everyone has to have the same hair and strict uniform, there will be no 'cool' hair to need to copy, and no clothing but the same v smart uniform.

And maybe promise to buy him a new out-of-school jacket or sweater that you could sew his old badges on? Or sew them onto someting else for him? LIke a rucsack, or denim jacket? Or sew the onto a cushion for his new bedroom?

Fingers crossed that he settles in v well - good luck for tomorrow.

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Jan20112011 · 15/05/2011 21:41

Thanks Blu, I could have cried when they shaved out and his lovely blonde faux hawk don?t know who was more upset me or him. Good idea on getting him something new that represents being hear the badges where mostly pin on ones I think what is it though is he just won?t feel right not wearing them or his old uniform. He looks so different without the hair as it was, went to watch a movie so he has brightened up a bit.

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Jaspants · 15/05/2011 22:09

Hope tomorrow goes well for you both Jan - I know how stressful the first day is for the parent as much as the child

mumblechum1 · 15/05/2011 22:12

No idea what a faux hawk is, but I'm sure he settle in, it just takes a while.

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Jan20112011 · 15/05/2011 23:29

Google is your friend there, anyway just to let everyone know he?s going in in a plain white t shirt black pants, and school shoes (ran out and got some old place allowed back plain trainers).

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mumblechum1 · 16/05/2011 07:28

fingers crossed for him today.

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