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My son has just burst into tears, and he never cries. Please help :o(

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MoreSpamThanGlam · 16/11/2010 18:26

My son is in Year 7 at a newish state school. He used to go to the 1 class per year primary but we moved out of the area to go to the same school as the other children.

He is a bright boy and very sensitive....and very ginger. he is musical and sporty but the kids at his school are predominantly froma poorer background and there are lots of fights, bullying etc. He feels really intimidated and has told me he has no friends, despite being the most popular boy in his old school.

I was just driving to my Mums and he told me about an old friend of his that has moved schools and as we started talking everything came flooding out and he was crying uncontrollably and said that his only friend has now said he cant be friends with him for fear of being beaten up.

He said that even if I speak to the head of year it cannot change the intimidating atmosphere of the whole school.

I come from a very working class background and went to a rough school and didnt want him to go to a predominantly white, middle class school but this is just awful. The other 2 closest schools are also dire. How do I get him in to the school he wants? Please help me.

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Desiderata · 17/11/2010 18:50

My son attends a white, middle-class school quite by default, and I have to say, it's bloody marvelous.

Whilst I can empathize with the ideology behind the OP's statement, a rough school is a tough nut to crack overnight.

Talkinpeace · 17/11/2010 18:50

:-)
I would still say get something in writing so that the school cannot pretend you have not complained
even if its just a polite letter saying
"to confirm our phone conversation, the points agreed were......"

think Joanna Lumley and Phil Woolas ; Ghurkas

Its amazing how effective they can be when they know there is no other choice

MoreSpamThanGlam · 17/11/2010 18:55

That is a great idea Talkinpeace. I am on it now, thanks

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Effjay · 17/11/2010 19:47

Sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing - tackling it in a measured, supportive way. I really hope things improve for him. Someone earlier mentioned hobbies - music, sport - this can be a great distraction and he may find a great group of new friends. I loved my music at school and in some ways it was my outlet from otherwise very dreary school life.

mummytime · 18/11/2010 10:39

I hope now the school is on the case things will improve. Do get your son to keep a diary about any incidents.

However things can turn around, especially if he finds the group he can be part of. Good luck!

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