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Marelle Sturrock

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MrsMuddle · 27/04/2023 09:04

I’m struggling to come to terms with this awful news. I knew Marelle and David through friends, although I only met them a few times. Those poor children she taught will be scared and traumatised. I know the police narrative, but I just can’t believe it.

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Wittow · 27/04/2023 23:07

ididntknowthat11 · 27/04/2023 17:08

@RandomGeocache I live there too. It is huge. Plus a lot of water nearby.

I know the poor man's mother is distraught not knowing what was happened to him and my heart aches for her. And I don't mean that to in anyway diminish the sympathy I have for Marelle and her family.

The whole thing is just so tragic. And I suspect nobody will ever find out what happened and why.

"The poor man"??? FFS he murdered his pregnant fiance. Violent and abusive..end of.

ididntknowthat11 · 27/04/2023 23:13

@Wittow

Badly worded. I meant the man's poor mother. It was badly worded although I had thought the meaning was clear that I was referring to the mother.

MichelleScarn · 27/04/2023 23:14

Agree with @Wittow 'poor man'?! Really.? And 'what happened to him'? From the reports by the police, what happened is that he murdered his wide and unborn child, then ended his own life? Sympathy for his mother, yes, 'poor man' re him? No.

Ohheyitsme1 · 27/04/2023 23:21

I’m sorry if it sounds harsh but I haven’t an ounce of sympathy for anyone who can end their pregnant fiancées life the way he did. Hope the coward rots.

LouBaloo · 27/04/2023 23:30

Ohheyitsme1 · 27/04/2023 23:21

I’m sorry if it sounds harsh but I haven’t an ounce of sympathy for anyone who can end their pregnant fiancées life the way he did. Hope the coward rots.

It’s such a shame he took his own life before being brought to justice tbh. I do feel so sorry for his parents as they probably had no idea of what a monster their son was. It must be so difficult for the families trying to make sense of whatever happened.

Sugarfree23 · 27/04/2023 23:33

@ididntknowthat11
I get what you mean. I really feel for her too. I can't imagine how she can pick up the pieces from here.
Picking up from suicide is bad enough but a murder before it. Awful.

Ohheyitsme1 · 27/04/2023 23:35

LouBaloo · 27/04/2023 23:30

It’s such a shame he took his own life before being brought to justice tbh. I do feel so sorry for his parents as they probably had no idea of what a monster their son was. It must be so difficult for the families trying to make sense of whatever happened.

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Definitely. His family, friends, colleagues etc will probably be shell shocked and will never get the answers to make it make sense. I do feel for them as they’ll be stuck in some kind of purgatory now.

For him, it sounds like he took the easy way out. Murdered her for whatever reason then knew he had to off himself to escape life in prison. Look at him; he wouldn’t have lasted two minutes inside.

bluewanda · 27/04/2023 23:46

I’m struggling to get my head around this to be honest - mainly because they look like such a normal, happy couple in the photos. That poor woman and her unborn baby - it’s heartbreaking.

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 27/04/2023 23:53

Yousee · 27/04/2023 19:34

It was inevitable but still such sad news. Anyone who knew them knows how devoted they were to each other. This is tragedy upon tragedy upon tragedy, whatever has happened.
I'm going to miss them so much.

I'm sorry but "devoted to each other" doesn't really cover this. Even if you knew them and it's hard to get your head around this, this is not devotion or anythinglike it.

Jane Monkton Smiths book Control is well worth a read when you feel able to read it.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 27/04/2023 23:58

ididntknowthat11 · 27/04/2023 16:25

I also can't believe this.

My auntie was friends with his mum many years ago. A lovely woman and by all accounts a lovely family.

I know you can't go by appearances and nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors.....but I just can't see David doing that.

I live just past Milngavie although currently on holiday so I feel a bit detached from what it currently going on there.

Just such a horrible tragedy.

Obviously if he did he did....but at this point is it a foregone conclusion?

Poor Marelle and her baby. And I feel for David's mum so much. And Marelle's family as well, of course.

He doesn't look right at all.

I think it'd pretty conclusive he did this.

Yousee · 28/04/2023 00:05

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 27/04/2023 23:53

I'm sorry but "devoted to each other" doesn't really cover this. Even if you knew them and it's hard to get your head around this, this is not devotion or anythinglike it.

Jane Monkton Smiths book Control is well worth a read when you feel able to read it.

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What "this" are you referring to? I'm basing my comment on knowing them well since the very start of their relationship over 10 years ago. What have you got to go on? Fuck all really. I won't condemn him until the police release all the facts.

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 28/04/2023 00:07

Yousee · 28/04/2023 00:05

What "this" are you referring to? I'm basing my comment on knowing them well since the very start of their relationship over 10 years ago. What have you got to go on? Fuck all really. I won't condemn him until the police release all the facts.

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"This" is that he clearly killed her like so many other women before her.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 28/04/2023 00:15

Yousee · 28/04/2023 00:05

What "this" are you referring to? I'm basing my comment on knowing them well since the very start of their relationship over 10 years ago. What have you got to go on? Fuck all really. I won't condemn him until the police release all the facts.

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As if someone would murder her and her baby in the flat then kidnap him and throw him in the water. Come on. t's clear as day. He killed her and their unborn baby.
Disgusting

MichelleScarn · 28/04/2023 04:32

Yousee · 27/04/2023 19:34

It was inevitable but still such sad news. Anyone who knew them knows how devoted they were to each other. This is tragedy upon tragedy upon tragedy, whatever has happened.
I'm going to miss them so much.

@Yousee are you saying 'it was inevitable' that Marelle and her child were going to be murdered? So people that knew them were aware thstb

MichelleScarn · 28/04/2023 04:34

That he would kill them? Am assuming that you have been in contact with police Scotland with this 'inevitable ' information?

ididntknowthat11 · 28/04/2023 05:11

@MichelleScarn No. she's saying it was inevitable that he had been found dead.

Please remember that these are real people with real, grieving families and be wary of saying things like that with no grounds.

The poster who knows them absolutely did not say that it was inevitable that he killed her, and that is obvious from the context of her posts.

ididntknowthat11 · 28/04/2023 05:12

MichelleScarn · 28/04/2023 04:34

That he would kill them? Am assuming that you have been in contact with police Scotland with this 'inevitable ' information?

Oh ffs.

Learn some basic reading comprehension before being so needlessly sarcastic.

MichelleScarn · 28/04/2023 05:18

Ffs back at you. @ididntknowthat11.
That poster to me appears sympathetic with him 'so devoted' to each other.. he killed her and an unborn child, but they were previously so devoted. And absolutely yes this is a real situation, but I have more sympathy for Marelle's family rather than thinking of him and his 'devotion'.

gawditswindy · 28/04/2023 08:25

She knew them so is able to express a different opinion to those who hadn't heard their names before Tuesday morning. Other who knew him or them have also echoed her sentiments - that they are surprised that he did this. You can condemn what he's done and still be allowed to express surprise that someone you know is capable of doing something like this.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 28/04/2023 08:28

I think it was clear that yousee meant it was inevitable he'd be found dead too.

RandomGeocache · 28/04/2023 10:24

You can condemn what he's done and still be allowed to express surprise that someone you know is capable of doing something like this.

Indeed. And still express that you feel sorry for his mum/siblings/friends as well as the family of the woman involved. His family are just as affected by this awful turn of events.

Sugarfree23 · 28/04/2023 12:40

I feel really sorry for his family.
Suicide is a hard enough thing to deal with, without having to come to terms with the death of his partner and baby, along with issues of shame and hate will come from his actions.

Brutal all round.

roughtyping · 28/04/2023 13:18

Thank you @gawditswindy

What a horrific situation. I'm so sad for her & her child. I can't understand

longtompot · 28/04/2023 18:48

I can't even think how her family are feeling, going from excitement about the arrival of her baby to this.
I've just read on the bbc news that the Police Investigations and Review Commissioner (Pirc) said the Crown Office had instructed them to launch an investigation into the death. Is this likely to mean she had contacted the police about his behaviour, and they hadn't acted on it?

BeerBot · 28/04/2023 19:00

Yes I saw that too and wondered if that meant she had had contact with the police @longtompot