Not wearing a kilt to a wedding - excuses needed!

[SirChenjin]

Family member is getting married soon. Some of the men in my extended family and all on her side are wearing kilts - it's a sign of being Scottish apparently

DH and DS1 have no interest whatsoever in wearing a kilt. They want to wear a nice suit - but are worried that this will mark them down as snobs/weirdos/insert name of choice here by some of the more vocal members of the group.

What's a good response to this nonsense if anyone starts? (yes Uncle, I am looking g at you)

Ahhh you should have said.... :o

You left it too late to hire something and it was only horrible tartans left?

I live in the north of Scotland, in my experience it is unusual for a man not to wear a kilt at a wedding. Often those from other cultures embrace wearing it. The last Scottish man I saw wearing a suit at a wedding looked like he had just rushed over after being in court. Wear what you want, but I think kilts are amazing on all men.

Well, I'm a big fan of men in kilts in general. I think that all men look tremendous in a kilt. However I think that it's a terrible thing that your family would be mean because someone chose not to wear one.

Although the majority of men do wear them at weddings there's always a significant number that wear a suit. I've never heard anyone comment.

There are lots of reasons people don't (although 'snob' is a weird one, can't think why anyone would say that)

If "I don't choose to" doesn't pass muster, then something along the lines of too hot, too scratchy, too much fuss, too expensive might do.

Could you try a nice "fuck off you rude bastard"?

Great - you obviously haven't been at a central belt wedding. I can assure you - all men do not look good in kilts down here

Eigg - competitive Scottishness. Honestly, I have some odd characters in my family for whom demonstrating your 'Scottishness' at all times is very important - and the wearing of a kilt, no matter what you look like in one, is part of that. DH and DS just don't like them and prefer suits.

Your son would be just as Scottish if he was dressed as a banana. Such nonsense.

I quite agree - but I'm just well aware of the comments which will follow a decision not to wear the kilt (even though our married surname doesn't have a tartan)

Eigg, was just coming on to say all men do NOT look good in kilts. Short fat men who think they’re Mel Gibson look a bit ridiculous (better in full formal fig, but a Braveheart shirt stretched over a huge belly is not a good look), and a kilt and socks have to be just exactly the right length or the wearer looks like your dowdy spinster aunt. It’s definitely a fine line.

Yes, and the made up plaids usually bought from China, or the absolute stretch – my aunties husband’s second cousin once removed was a Stuart so I’m entitled to wear the tartan……..

I'm sure you won't remember SirChenjin but we stood on opposite sides during the Indy ref debates. However I absolutely hate the idea that your "Scottishness" is dependant on what you wear, how you vote or how you speak.

It's insulting.

Can you speak to the worst offenders beforehand to make sure they don't upset your DS?

Ah don't worry about it. Dh, best man, ushers and plenty guests wore kilts to my wedding however my dad decided he wanted a nice suit. No one said anything to him! although on the morning of the wedding he looked wistfully at the kilts and said he wished he'd at least tried one on

lost well the same man won't look good in a suit either I should think.

I like kilts, it's nice to see men having the opportunity to wear some colour for a change. I think it looks cheerful.

However that's all irrelevant as the OP's men don't want to wear one and shouldn't be made to feel that they should.

I don't remember that Eigg . Most rational people would hate the idea of Scottishness being dependent on what you wear - which is why we're bracing ourselves for the inevitable

Miles - easier said than done

Ahh the colour thing...you mean the black socks, black kilt, black jacket and tie to match the colour of the bridesmaids' frock look?

I'm not keen on black kilts. I'm also not keen on matching kilts.

At our wedding everyone in the wedding party wore their own choice of tartan and it looked wonderful.

Families can be a nightmare. Why is it that the people who are meant to love and care for you most are the ones that drive you crazy?

I don't mind the black kilts, but good god those stupid lace up shirts look hideous every time.

I think we all agree on that situated

My dh and his bm wore kilts, only one guest did just because he wanted to. Ds wore a suit. Suits for every other male. I think this is a problem within your family more than a Scottish thing, iyswim, they sound like the type to want something to pick on.

My DH just says thT he hasn't got the legs for a kilt. I do like men in kilts though as long as they're not wearing those lace up shirts that are hideous.

I thought it was more an English thing to wear kilts at weddings. Dh had to wear one once as he was best man. Nobody there was Scottish. The bride insisted they all wore their kilts with black underpants, so there was no bums or willies on show either so what was the fucking point. Anyway they all looked very smart phwoooar haha, but I'm sure a smart suit would look just as good. As long as he's not some part of the wedding party like an usher or something, then he just has to be smart.

You could put an orange wig on him, a tartan hat, and get him to wave some haggis about and bellow 'ach aye the noo' or something while showing off his new Nicola Sturgeon tattoo. Nobody will mention the kilt.

Contentious Feck - but I like it

I like the idea of matching NS tattoos - that's going to put the kilts in the shade

I'm with you SirChenjin I really don't like kilts....not even on Callum Kennedy!

Ach, I don't know, sometimes kilts can look good. I'll just leave you with this...

Bit distracting for a wedding though Wankers - although personally I would love an AIBU thread from a bride who felt upstaged by the arse cleavage of kilt-wearing guests

Already had a suit, didn't want to throw money away renting a kilt or buying one I will never wear again when I have a perfectly good suit already

I think a Nicola Sturgeon mask would be even better.