I hate living like this

[Stressedoutmummyof3]

I hate my life. I hate my husband. The only person I don't hate are my kids.
I'd never have agreed to stay at home if I'd known things were going to get so bad.
No I can't go back to work unless someone can find me a job TTO that only requires 2 hours a day.
I just hate it. I wish I'd made my husband because the SAHP just so he'd get it but he never will. Not that he cares anyway.

I'm so cross with your husband! What a turd. Of course no one would choose the life you're currently living. It won't last forever OP

How are you getting on OP?

have you considered splitting from your DH and going 50/50 custody with the kids? It would give you a break and enable you to rejoin the workforce at least. I don’t know whether that’s realistic re finances etc. Just an idea.

I think if he won’t clean DS’ room or look after him for more than 2 hours then he’s unlikely to agree to 50/50.

Unfortunately you can’t force someone to parent their own DC.

If he has a diagnosis does he have an ehcp?
Have you investigated a sleep sytem you can get special ones that are wipeable and secure so that the young person can't get out harm them selves or others. They often look like giant soft play ball pools ( with out the balls ) that have a canopy and soft sides that are zipable. It is very common for young people and my send school to have them as it ensures parents can keep the young person safe . Smearing is a sensory seeking sensation you could ask for a refferal to the local sensory hub for support.
Practially some of our parents get seamstresses to make an all in one with buttons on the back high between the shoulder blades that aren't reachable .

Your husband sounds so unhelpful and I can see why you feel stuck. I pray you get your send school space and support you need. It sounds to me ultimately you need space for you and your not getting that and your very selfish husband doesn't understand that

💐 I feel for you.

Rather than mentioning things in passing, hmm down and have a proper discussion? Tell him how you feel that you are on the way to burn out and that for you to be able to care, you need some down time.

Dinner lady is the job you need