Please go back to the office...

[Helenj1977]

Anyone hating their dp working from home? It was nice at first (in March) but he's still home.

24/7 he's with me and the kids. I don't think our relationship will cope much longer. His office is 'Covid safe', our older kids are in school, why can't he go back to work 😭

Anyone else?

Maybe he doesn't want to?

Because the advice is to wfh if you can surely

Oh god yes. Not a SAHM but on ML.

Same boat op. Fed up

Mine works from home full time anyway, so no change for us.
Doesn’t bother me really. He’s holed up in his ‘office’ (our dining room) and I don’t see/hear from him in working hours.

I’ve been working from home since March. Am enjoying no commuting and less hours away from home. I’ve no plans to go back into the office as I prefer working from home now.

I know how you feel!

I think I have got used to it now-it’s useful having DH home with school runs and deliveries, but I do miss having the house to myself sometimes plus he’s so untidy!

Nope. I love having him home still. Mind you, the commute was so long I didn't see him much before in the week so this is a million times better!

Maybe i need to go to work! I'm used to being on my own most of the day, the novelty has worn off.

I hear him, he pops in randomly and he's so un tidy and loud!

I hear him, he pops in randomly and he's so un tidy and loud!

I think this is your issue! I don’t hear a peep out of mine and he’s tidier than me

Yes yes yes OP! My DH has gone from being out of the house 7am - 7pm five days a week to being at home full time. I never minded doing everything during the week, it worked.

There are massive pros to him WFH. He has lost 2.5 hours a day commuting time, time that he now spends with the children (they're 4 and 2). He stops work almost every night to read them a story at bedtime. He gives them breakfast and does their baths. So I love that.

BUT he is here ALL DAY LONG. My god. I didn't sign up to being a sahm with him here all day under my feet with his 'helpful suggestions' for added efficiency, or asking questions all the time. For example questioning why the dishwasher goes on twice a day (why do you think?!) why parcels are always arriving, what are they? (Christmas shopping, i always do it all online from September he's just not normally here to see it all arriving). Where me and 2yr old are going (for a walk!) Leaving lunch mess in my clean kitchen, coming in at lunchtime and putting bloody sky sports news on while I'm trying to have ten minutes peace and quiet. Argh. I'm used to just getting on!

I'm a real introvert, my 2 year old still naps two hours a day and that was my time. Now he's here! Talking to me all the time.

I know it's a first world problem and I know we are more fortunate that lots of others because he can work perfectly fine from home, and we have a decent office space. I'm glad we're able to cut his contact with people and as such, be safer. But he will likely never go back full time. I'm counting the days until this bloody pandemic is over and he goes back 2/3 days a week.

@Ignoringequally

Mine works from home full time anyway, so no change for us. Doesn’t bother me really. He’s holed up in his ‘office’ (our dining room) and I don’t see/hear from him in working hours.

To those who are suffering: is this the arrangement with your partners? Having a designated room with the door shut during working hours so you don’t see / him is one thing. Having a partner who manspreads, and who you definitely see / hear is very different.

Mines retired and it took a year to get used to and I now have my own designated room otherwise I think we’d have been looking at separation or a nervous breakdown, whichever came first 😁. Surely it isn’t natural to spend so much time together in our social history? Didn’t men go off hunting or something and the female had the cave to herself? 🙂

Yabu. Go out to work yourself.

@Abracadabra12345 My MIL says when she and my FIL retired (at the same time, give or take a few months but she only worked a few hours a week by then so was used to being home alone a lot) she deliberately gave him loads of DIY and decorating to do for the first year, then got him a position on the village council when he was done so he'd be kept busy! She said if he'd have been in the house constantly under her feet she'd have divorced him (or worse!)

Same here 🙋‍♀️😫
It is quite handy having around to do school runs, so I have been able to work more... but despite being here all day, he doesn't get any housework done as he's 'working' 🤨🙄

Oh goodness yes. Unfortunately DH has a new job which is home based so I'm stuck with him for the foreseeable.

We've had many words as I work from home as a childminder (it's naptime!) And he is so loud. He wandered through the house on calls especially at nap time, popping for a chat when we are doing activities and phoning for cups of coffee. Apparently as I have an assistant she can make him drinks and pop errands for him. He now knows differently.

I also miss the peace on a Friday, my day off as I do 45 hours over 4 days. He wanders around after me chatting when I'm cleaning and complains I've gone out to walk the dog! But if I ask him to shove a load of washing on he's suddenly very busy.

Ahhh that feels better!

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Yabu. Go out to work yourself.

Kind of defeats the point of choosing to be a stay at home parent!

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Yabu. Go out to work yourself.

Er no, y Abu. Check the board

Mine has to be in the lounge because of connectivity and so on. It means I have to be either out, or upstairs. No ones fault but it drives me mental.

Oh and he took over my office / sewing area and moved everything. Then complained when I reorganised the rooms so we have a bigger study/craft room. It's a lovely room, lots of natural light (after years of him complaining his office is to dark and has no windows) beautifully painted and has a nice squishy comfy sofabed in to make calls on but no, he liked his dark corner in the eaves of the house.

He also wonders why we get so many parcels (resources for the kids, Christmas and 9 birthdays between now and new year). Why do we have a dog walker, ERM because you won't take her out on your lunch break and I'm not taking her and 6 kids out!

I could rant all day.

We’re both WFH full time and it’s fine. We keep out of each other’s way generally. My office is upstairs his is downstairs.

Thankfully my husband isn’t messy or loud. These are more your issues than him WFH.

Yes!!
I work PT but home 2 days a week with DD (3).
The house is a mess, he works longer hours because he can and so is no help and I am constantly being asked to keep quiet. He has taken over the living room as his office and so I am relegated to the kitchen diner (which is an ok size but a bit cramped with both DC and alllll the toys).
He works until 11/12 at night and so I have nowhere to sit and relax.
Go. The. Fuck. Back. To. The. Office.

[quote sunflowershine]@Abracadabra12345 My MIL says when she and my FIL retired (at the same time, give or take a few months but she only worked a few hours a week by then so was used to being home alone a lot) she deliberately gave him loads of DIY and decorating to do for the first year, then got him a position on the village council when he was done so he'd be kept busy! She said if he'd have been in the house constantly under her feet she'd have divorced him (or worse!) [/quote]
I can’t see that as going down well at the time, but how lovely 😁

No, I prefer my Husband at home just from a Covid point of view.

I don't see him all day still as he's so busy, but it also takes his commute out for him, so we get longer in bed together in the morning which is lovely.

Maybe you annoy him!