could you live like this?

[ThatVikRinA22]

myself amd DH have been together for over 20 years. in this time, i have always been the "sorter" - the person who sorts everything. DH is very laid back. very placid. very dependable. but also very lazy, stubborn and child like sometimes.

he wont get off his backside and do anything. he snores so i end up on a mattress on DDs floor most weekends - he wont sort it. He wont have a vastectomy so im back on a pill that leaves me feeling crap. (and he hasnt noticed so far that there has been no sex) Yesterday DD was unwell, he left it to me to take her to A&E despite the fact i work for our GP and he could have simply phoned me.
Lately i have persued my dream career, its taken me 2 years and im nearly there. he continues to work unsociable hours for very little money, unpaid overtime, permanent nights. We hardly see each other. He asked me earlier this year to help him find another job. He asked me to do his CV etc (i said he is incapable didnt i??)
he got one knock back then decided he is happy where he is after all.

i suggested looking into other types of work. but again he waited for me to do all the work. ive mentioned a few times about maybe looking into retraining - he says "yeah - i might do" then thats it. I am worried i am changing and leaving him behind. his lack of drive irritates me beyond belief. ive tried to talk to him but i just got "well divorce me then". any suggestions?

thanks,

we havnt alternated because he would wake dd, unless he sleeps downstairs. its easier just to sleep on the pull out mattress in DDs room - if he did it she would be awake all night too!

last night he slept on the sofa so i got a lovely sleep in my own bed. he says he has a difficult 2 weeks at work but then says he will go to the GP, about his snoring and his wheezing. ive also asked him why he is so reluctant to look into different jobs - it comes down to job security. he has worked for the same firm for 20 years. he knows his job is safe there, the unknown worries him.

baby steps maybe but still steps.

yes, and do continue to encourage him when he goes in the right direction

iove been with a partner who was like that but was only togetheer for a short while for there was no drive or excitment he jus went along with whatever i suggested , it irritated me afftera while , he was lazy and boring and laid back too but did love me also gosh he was a good man and still is but not for me, i was there to make sure everything was ok too , like i was in charge, im not mummy, i felt like i was there jus to please him. what do you do?!!!!