How often do you get out without the kids compared to dp/dh?

[charliecat]

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Once in 3.5 years - whilst pregnant with ds2. Tried to get away for 40th weekend, but dh was in US so had to pull out. He's on a big BIG IOU.

i'm not treating DP's social life as more important than mine.
I'm quite happy with being in during the week tbh, and if I made more effort I would and could go out on my own more. But by the time I get in from work, pick up DD I'm too tired. I go out a weekends a lot, but with DP.
He on the other hand goes for a beer straight from work once a week as he dworks in town and unlike me doesn't have the car so as I work locally it's up to me to pick DD up.

Ok Thomcat, but that's just you. And if you don't want to go out, that's fine. That cannot apply to every single person on this thread though?

i talk for myself only yes, and I am happy to stay in most weekdays, yes, thanks.

Snap Thomcat (I am pg and don't want to go out either).

What I was getting at in my usual clumsy fashion is that so many mums on here are seething that their dp goes out 3 times more than they do, but they seem to just accept it as their lot in life.

I honestly think the answer is because their partners let them.

This isn't a rant aimed at you TC, btw, just a general Millie Tante feminist one

The women in the part of Turkey I live in,never go out without their dh. The blokes meanwhile are out all the time.
I never go out on my own here as I would be harassed and/or stared at and in any case,there's nowhere to bloody go!
It gets really trying as I tend to do 6-8 week stints her,during which time I am in the constant presence of my children. Much as I love them,it is incredibly invasive.I stay up much later than dh as it's the only time I am on my own.

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Erm - not sure who goes out more, probably me. If I ever want to go out it's never a problem and same goes for if dh is out. Dh is always telling me to take time off.

I work from home so dh is used to having the children - he's out with them now at the airport watching the planes and taking them on to the park. I'm working (honest!).

I get out a lot more than dh, but I've made more effort to keep up with a circle of friends. I don't go out much, but have been for weekends away while he's looked after the children.

why are you bringing all these old threads up exDH??

is RnB your ex then?

neither of us go out.

never/hardly ever but i could if i could a) afford it b) wanted to.

he has no option on the matter he just gets told not to make any plans that night as he children will need caring for by some one other than me. he has learned its best not to argue with me on this one.

Me: never
Husband: never

If we went out it would mean standing on a street corner with nothing to do as we have no money to go to cinema. We tend to prefer the sofa in front of the tv rather than the street corner .

i dont, ever. but then i rather like him going out as i get to eat chocolate, quaff wine, mess on mn, watch trash tv, read trashy sleb mags an i cant do that when he's in as we do stuff together like watch movies, eat and

why trudge this up now exdh?

Now I'm divorced and remarried it's the time with my kids I fight for. I much prefer the weekends with my kids to the ones without them.
If I have more kid free time than my ex I get miserable.