So he has admitted he wants 'us' back, but is going about it very strangely!!

[mummytowillow]

Update on my previous post ... he has finally admitted he has made a mistake (took him 18 months) and wants DD and me back!

However, this is what he wants/expects me to do to enable all this!

ME to:

give up another job, take my daughter out of a nursery it has taken her 10 months to settle into and move both of us back down South (300 miles)as he is not giving up his job!

improve things in the 'bedroom department'

give him lots of love and affection as apparently this was lacking!

not to mention 'the affair' anymore, however he can constantly refer back to how I was with the PND!

He is going to do:

NOTHING ... oh he said he would be more thoughtful with christmas and birthdays instead of chucking a card in the weekly shop .. how kind of him!

He genuinely believes he has no faults and does not need to change one bit! He has just sent a text saying maybe we should get divorced as I have said he needs to 'prove' himself to us, he basically can't be bothered so is taking the easy option. He thinks I should just say yes and it all goes back to normal! Anyway, I have finally come to my senses and WILL NOT be taking the complete idiot back!!

Anyfucker ....... I await your wise words please!

Quite right too. What's the phrase? Fuck right off and when you get there, fuck right off again???

Blimey he's chancing his arm isn't he?.

I would initiate divorce proceedings if you have not already done so.

Oh thank god this is something you are not actually considering! What a prize knob with those 'rules for return'!!!

I think you should hold a competition for the most entertaining way of saying fuck the fuck off. I'm sure AF will have a brilliant suggestion

Sounds like you've uttered your own wise words to me....from what you say he's a pig, clearly. Mind you, I agree with him about the divorce-Get thee to a lawyer woman!

What a cock.

HA HA! I love it when that happens-looks like we're all agreed!!

good for you. Tell him to go ahead with the divorce.

I am going to be very restrained

Tell him the answer is no

AF - how disappointing!

Hmm, I went to see a solicitor a few months back to divorce his sorry arse!!

It was not good news though, we have a house we rent out, huge mortgage which we can't sell due to fixed rate mortgage penalties, we would end up owing instead of coming out clean? If we were to divorce whilst still keeping the house on etc, solicitor said it would be complicated, he also has two children with his other 'ex' wife and a very good police pension I would like some of for our daughter who will be 12 when he retires! He wants me to leave the pension as its not fair on his other two children, his last ex wife came away mortgage free, all their savings and endowments, we have nothing joint for me to have! I just want my daughters share its not for me, (the solicitor said I'm not entitled to it, but can be considered for it, which I understand)

She said all in all it could cost £2000!! I haven't got that kind of money so have left it til we can sort the house out, even though thats another three years away!

Oh no AF please don't be restrained!! I've got a nasty case of conjunctivitis, I'm feeling very sorry for myself ..... make me laugh please!!

Too much pressure !!

< quivers >

< gets stage fright >

so i am assuming you have welcomed him back with open arms then?

seriously, who gives them this heightened self of themselves. twat. (him, not you OP.)

What a fuckwit.

Divorce this loser.

You've already been apart long enough to realise you're worth so much more than this.

This will be a £2000 investment in a priceless future of yourself being without someone who treats you like crap.

You can get the decree nisi without sorting out the finances - I know this, my sister did it. But the finances were supposed to be sorted out before the decree absolute went through, and her ex was beyond slow at doing anything - so their decree nisi actually expired!! (I didn't know this was possible before) Anyway. Start the proceedings, make it clear that he is on a hiding into nothing with his "rules" (knob) and make it all his fault (affair, yes?)

Unreal, the sense of "I'm so great you have to want me back" that some people have.

What a complete nutjob. It's amazing how some people simply have no idea of how their behaviour comes across - you got rid of a prize loser and now he is saying he will only come back if you do as you're told, shut up and suck cock whenever he feels in the mood.
GOod luck with the divorce.

If you wanted to cite unreasonable behaviour, you could just cut and paste his conditions to you straight into the petition!

I hoped you laughed at him, long and loud, right in his face.

I second Annie's suggestion. You could be totally matter of fact about the statements - no commentary at all - and you'd definitely succeed.

Sorry you were ever married to such a twat. And actually quite sorry for him that he has to go through life being such a twat.

Really, who cares what he wants with regard to the pension?

Get rid asap! And bloody well done for seeing through his arrogant crap.