bit rude for a tuesday morning, but oral sex question

[littlebitrude]

I have a lovely new boyfriend. Hes early 30's and was, shall we say a bit of a late starter on the sex front.
Anyway, he confessed that he has never gone down on a woman, but would really like too.

Hes, er, very enthuastic about everything else. seems to have a rather sheltered sex life while im a bit wild.

I dont know if i should belive his confession, and how i feel about it really, or if im disapointed as im not going to get amazing oral sex, not least for a while till he learns what hes doing, or if i should be flattered that hes not done it before but is desperate to do it with me.

and how on earth do i teach him what to do?

Perhaps a story given to Literotica would have been more appropriate .

Of course group sex is sleeping around, there's nothing committed about a relationship that involves infidelity, at all.

Cheating on your partner, whether they are present or not, is not a fetish, it's simple cheating.

Now spanking - that's a fetish.

unless your group sex was with your bf at that present time and your ex's.... then i would say that was sleeping around.

out of interest.. was it at an organised event of sort.. or did your bf just get his mates round for a bit of a gang bang?

i also notice you call it group sex.. and not a 3-some.

how many are we talking? i cant figure out how your tally for the number of men you have slept with can be as low as you preach with a group session in there.

i'm also someone who considers myself as experimental. But i would say your new fellas attitude to sex is what is normal and yours is on the weird/fetish side of things.

and having slept with a reasonably high total of men i am a slut in your book. yet i've never cheated when committed in a relationship, never had a one-night stand, and only ever done experimental things in a committed LTR.

i dont think you are a troll.

but i hope you dont get this nice fella you have met and have him thinking that your way is normal. if you ever split up he will end up taking those values to a new relationship possibility. any future relationships he gets involved with where the gf isn't into any fetish behaviour will not be impressed and possibly dump her when he starts going on about her dressing up in rubber undies

this is a sure far example of a nice bloke being ruined by a woman who tells him he's "shy" .. "inexperienced"... i hope you haven't gone as far as to call his previous experience "boring" or anything that puts him down.

i promise you i am not. Though if i were, and were posting this on some dadsnet, i doubt the attitude im getting would not be the same.
Interesting to think about.

I do not agree that group sex is sleeping around. Sorry. I was not infedelity. It did not mean that neither i, nor him were not committed to our relationship. It was not sometihng that was happening on a weekly basis, but even if it were, it would still not mean those things.

It was certainly not cheating. How could it be cheating if they were there? We were not cheating anyone. No lies were told. No deception. No one was hurt. What about long term relationships involving 3 people. I happen to know of this, and ive never seen a more loving, happy, committed relationship. They are all in their 60's now and have been together for many many years. Im sorry, but you are being very very close minded.

I also never said group sex was a fetish. Though it could be, anything could be a fetish. Oranges could be a fetish. Cotton wool could be a fetish. Newspaper could be a fetish. Fetish is a very very interesting subject and not one many people understand, or even try to understand.

i meant the gf would dump him for being weird.. but i suppose he might dump her too thinking she is too timid compared to what you do.

no i have not. why would i say such horrible things to him.

Im not nasty. Im not going to ruin him. Im not going to talk him into anything. Im not going to explore fetish with him, unless of course he wants to. I think its important and should be applauded if two adults can talk about things openly, discuss wants and desires, things they would like to try, with enough trust in the relationship to know that the other person was not going to laugh, or run a mile.

and no, it wasnt an organised event, and nor was it my partners mates coming round for a gang bang. My god really! Such shocking assumptions. Such prejudice assumptions.

Of course my tally can still be low, even with group sex.

LBR, for what its worth, I get what you say about the group sex/not cheating thing. In my book, not cheating if your are both consenting. Bonkers!

Annnnnyway, someone willing to receive oral sex instruction - fabulous!! Personally I would say 'find clitoris, keep licking like its a melting ice lolly, don't stop til I'm screaming'.