dh not speaking and getting more and more angry

[gettinginapanic]

dh has not been speaking to me since friday night when I got back from work.
I asked him what was wrong yesterday and he ignored me/told me to "get out of here I'm not speaking to you!"
Today I just spoke to him and he just said"Shut up"in front of everyone.

Last night after being stonewalled I told him to leave but he won't leave and now I am feeling a bit scared as he seems so angry.

I am not sure if he has looked at my computer or something {I have a solicitor number on there]or what the hell's going on.

I just want to know someone is listening and if anything happens I can ask for advice.

Do you have absolutely no idea why he's doing it?

What's the solicitor number for?

He's being extremely childish and passive aggressive by not telling you.

I do deep down want to separate because of his behaviour but last weekend in fact on mon and tues everything was ok but he is really angry and won't say why.

where was he on friday?

You might have to fill us in with a bit of back story!

I think he would like to split maybe,but won't leave the house so he wants me to go but I won't leave the dc and the house and just let him have everything and it look as if I am leaving the dc

I actually have no idea whats going on atm

Is it catching as DH has not spoken to me since yesterday when he got out of bed. Mind you, because he wasn't speaking to me, I ignored him, so now we have a stalemate sort of situation. Who is going to break first?
I hate it when he does this, it is so bloody childish. I always have to make a fuss and ask him what's wrong.
When I think i could have got Mr darcy, instead I got mr Arsey.

sorry I am feeling very nervous,most unusual for me and it's as if I can sense something bad is going to happen I can't explain it.
He has just gone out with ds which isn't helping.

purepurple..snap,what does he do when you ask him?

Just says he's 'stressed'. We both avoid confrontation but sometimes things need to be said. He has been out, didn't tell me he was going, now he is back, sitting in the garden, listening to his i-pod. i am not cooking any food, if he can't speak to me, I'm not cooking for him.

does he be rude and stroppy or angry with you
last night he looked at me like he was going to chase me,you know he turned to me as if to say if you don't get out I'll make you get out

You need to get an emergency bag ready and as much cash etc just in case.

sounds as if you have said something to someone about him and he found out on Friday

If you both do want to split up anyway, is it so dramatic? I would just keep my distance till he explains or takes the next step. No doubt he will in time come out with it. Maybe yes, he saw something you had written on the pc

well nomnom I think he is either just in a bad mood and taking it out on me,or angry with me about something but hasn't said what,or realises I want out of the marriage and the little bit of talking or tidying or babysitting when I am at work is not going to change my mind,so he is going to make me suffer as much as possible.

he is very into revenge

gettinginapanic, no he doesn't get angry or stroppy with me. I don't feel threatened or uncomfortable. He is just not a great communicator.

zzzen yes it is as if someone has said something or he has seen my pc

however this has happened in the past and there has been no reason so maybe not.

he doesn't want to split up,I do

it is just he is so aggressive with it [manner]

if you want to split up and you are scared of him, you know the sooner you get onto it, the better really.

Can someone come over if you are scared?

I tried to contact my friend but I couldn't get her

I'm v worried for you. Is there anyone you can ring so you and the dc have somewhere to go?

he has just taken ds out
oh fgs

I'm going outside to see if they are back

You need to leave him immediately if he's making you feel threatened in any way. You sound quite scared of him imo.

Grab the dc's and go to a family member or friend's house, or a hotel or women's refuge.

I am sorry that you are feeling so anxious. Maybe you could call someone you know will calm you down and who knows him & the situation. Good luck!

well at least they are back I think I felt acutely anxious because of his mood,not speaking and being so aggressive towards me

I do not like confrontation and to me,shouting or shut ups are aggressive as I am very peace loving so don't know if everyone would feel the same

I think he has been on best behaviour to win me back and has run out of enthusiasm for it

I feel threatened,but that's not to say other women might be ok with that sort of situation I'm not sure.

I have just told him to speak as he is acting like a child.
So the final nail is in the coffin but since he is the least cooperative person in the world I am dreading the split and even him having ds at weekends on his own..i mean he looks after him well but I hate these moods and get really worried.

I can't even really talk to him fgs what a mess

thankyou so much I can't tell if I am just v sensitive or if most women would be frightened in that situation but this hasn't happened for a long time

Are you scared that he's going to attack you? has he attacked you in the past?

I think you should ring that solicitor tomorrow morning and find out where you stand legally on getting him out of the house. Do you have a joint mortgage? joint rental agreement?

Jesus, I hate reading these kind of posts.

Get him and his threatening silent-tantrums out.

Goodbye Mr No Words. Take your shit with you. Ta