Sorry for the name-change but my usual name makes me immediately identifyable to people who may know me. I'm having concerns about a person I have just befriended. It started at college when a young bloke joined late in the course. He was very loud but funny as hell, I took an instant like to him but secretely wondered if he was gay. Not that it mattered or it was any of my business, I was just curious because although he wasn't your average Boy-George, he did come across as being "gay" and I was just nosy.
I would never have mentioned it to anyone else but I overheard a couple of other people talking and wondering aloud if he was gay. One of them said she'd asked him and he'd denied it. So from this, I assumed it wasn't just me that thought he could be gay.
(Again, not that it mattered! it was just curiousity).
Then I was speaking to someone else later in the course who laughed that she had asked him outright and he had said he wasn't gay. So from this point I just assumed he wasn't.
I hadn't had much to do with him, never spoke in depth to him or anything, just laughed along with his jokes and gave the odd wave when I saw him around college. I thought he was a funny, nice guy.
Fast forward to last week, the two of us where in a room of people we didn't know so naturally gravitated toward one another, got talking, left the building together and he walked to the bus stop with me. During this walk, he told me he'd had to suddenly leave his last city, leave his flat, his car, his job etc and come back home to where we live now. It sounded like an emergency evacuation but all he said was that something really bad happened and he'd had to leave instantly. He also told me was having trouble with the college work and was afraid he was going to get chucked off the course and that he was gay.
So I offered to help him with his work where I could. He took me up on it and asked if I had facebook. I gave him my name and he said he'd add me to facebook.
That night, he did add me to facebook and sent me a msg asking for my mobile number. In the msg he called me "babe" and ended it with lots of xxxxx's. DH saw and was not impressed. I said "oh don't worry, he's gay!". DH not convinced.
I gave him my number. I Wrong decision maybe? I then got another msg saying "thanks, I'll phone you in a bit xxxx"
Anyway I heard nothing from him all night. Assumed he'd managed to get himself sorted. Then yesterday evening he sent me another msg on facebook asking if it was ok to call. I made my excuses. He said he'd leave it.
That evening I'm stood in the kitchen with DH, my phone rings. DH not impressed at all. I answer it and he asks about this work, keeps me on the phone half an hour, panicking about a bit of work he'd lost and then miraculously finds it at the end of the convo. I wish him luck and say good bye. 15 minutes later, he calls back asking about another bit of work. Keeps me talking. Finds the work at the end of the covo apologises and we end the call. 5 minutes later, he calls back. When I pick up he calls himself my stalker (not highly unusual for him to talk like this, he is a joker but it was starting to get a bit wierd). Asks me to run through the work again. I do. DH getting really pissed off at this point and asks "are you SURE he's gay??"
I apologise to DH after the call, leave my phone on the kitchen side and go and get a shower. When I get out, DH mutters "your stalker called again AND left you a text". I read the text in which he offers to call again with some info I may find useful for my own work. I thank him but decline his offer (it was getting on for 9pm) and tell him I'll see him tomorow (today) at college. He apologises with a X. DH spits "why does he keep putting kisses on everything???" so I try to assure him its just the way he talks. I then get another text off him with just "X". DH spitting feathers at this point. I apologise!
10.40pm I get another text asking "are you still up?"
FFS - DH really not comfortable with this now and thinks the guy is some kind of psycho. Is he just being paranoid or should I distance myself from this lad?