My partner and i have been together for 3 years, but has started acting oddly around me, being secretive, spliiting out ebay, paypal and shared facebook accounts (and deleting all her friends from it). This started a couple of months ago, before she started coming off anti depressants. She is currently on half a dose. Maybe that?s what?s causing it, don?t know, but last night she had a go at me in front of my son, for using facebook! And asked me why I started using it again now that she had set up her own. So I asked her why she needed to set up her own when we already had one, especially as I (still) only go on there occasionally. Then she had a another go because I had re friend requested some of her friends after she deleted everyone she knows from our original one. Her answer was that she needed her own space and a bit of privacy. That doesn?t sound like a ?couple? thing to me.
So from here it looks like I am not allowed to use facebook, and if I do I am not allowed to have her friends as my friends even though they are my friends. Again that doesn?t sound like a couple thing to me.
I also found out that she had been secretly texting a bloke for nearly 6 months, and previously arranged to meet him about a year ago.
She has also changed her passwords to some 14 character thing, when in the past we shared our passwords (she still knows all mine). That and all the above makes it look to me like she is hiding something and if I share her friends I get to see all her posts which it seems she doesn?t want me to see.
I found out last night that she has friend requested (and had acceped) an old boyfriend who in the past she texted and phoned quite regularly, I didn?t mind previously as she always said he was just her next door neighbour from a few years a go and that was who she got her old hamster from and he was only a friend. Her daughter let it slip a couple of months ago that they went out together for nearly a year and yet my partner initially denied it. So why lie?
So again its ok for her to have ex boyfriends on facebook and in her phone, to secretly text another bloke for 6 months and secretly arrange to meet him a year ago (although I did find out), yet she went bonkers when I friend requested a girl that used to live next door to me when I was a kid and last saw when I was about 15. And I did have nothing to do with her romantically or otherwise.
I dunno whats going on, we were going to set up a business tgether but she has also gone cold on that. So I am going to sort of look out for myself at the moment, and going to invest in my own business. If she doesn?t hurry up and make up her mind with the business, the money earmarked to set up will get spent on the photo stuff that I need to run my own business. She will have cut off her nose to spite her face, and tbh I am not so sure I want to invest in both of us right now. I love her to bits but this is really unsettling me, I don?t need it.