Have also posted in Dadsnet to get male POV but no response yet. Am at breaking point and would welcome any advice, help, opinions, please. Had pnd twice coupled with anti depressants and sadly DH was frequently refused sex from me for which I always felt incredibly guilty for, (he didn't believe me). He never went without for more than a months or so. So about 6years ago, I thought in a moment of anger, he said he would not 'bother' me again. He hasn't exactly stuck to his word 100% but I guess he has approached me for sex around 4 or 5 times a year and I have always responded. This year it has been only twice so far and I am getting more and more unable to cope with the lack of interest or affection. I feel very ugly and undesirable despite the fact I am well groomed and very attracive. He is not interested in me and despite the fact I have told him how I feel, certainly a few times in the last 3 years, he is still keeping away. He is only 46 and when asked, claims he has no one else. How can a man of his age be so disinterested? I don't know what to do. I still love him and want to be with him but this is seriously hurting me badly. I have told him this. I even went so far (probably big mistake) to tell him I was going to go out more often and find someone who is interested in me becuase he clearly wasn't. Sadly his response to that was oh right thats how it is is it. Well I can do the same then. I told him I was not happy to continue our marriage with no sex and asked was in he interested in having a sexual relationship with me. He never just says yes or no but skirts around the question and never really answers. Help, if you can please. Also, no I never take the initiative and approach him as he told me a few years ago he didnt love me anymore, hence I feel unable to make a move on him. He is otherwise, kind etc but we live as friends not lovers.