My marriage is over and DH wants to play no further part in the childrens lives

[LadyGaggia]

Quick background. We've been married 10yrs, together for 16. We have two kids, ages 8 and 6.
We have no affection between ourselves, it has been tough for years but a fortnight ago when he refused to kiss me during sex I snapped and it has been like a light inside me has gone out.

We have talked about it at great length and yesterday I went to relate. We tried to get intimate a couple of days ago and I felt nothing, kissing him unmoved me and I felt awkward.

Anyway long story short, he feels he can't hang about for me to decide whether I can get the feelings back for him and we have decided to separate.
He tells me (and has posted on facebook) that he is going away and will not have any contact with the kids as he isn't strong enough to see me find another man who will replace him as the dad!
The kids adore him and I am now faced with breaking their hearts, or force him to stay with me and pretend my marriage isn't a sham.

What do I do?

THe fact that he tried to bully you into staying by threatening to abandon you and the DC with poverty was a clear indicator that the only way your marriage was going to 'work' was if you were prepared to obey, submit and service him indefinitely. That;s no way to ive and you will be better off psychologically (if not financially) without him.
BEst of luck.

Sorry my previous message is irrelevant. I hadn't noticed the dates & extra pages.
Having been through similar, the advice here is spot on.