shd i surprise her........

[newlyarrived]

First time here, thought its an all mums zone, but read a few male postings so really encouraged,and I can see help is generously on tap, so pls bail me out!!!

On biz abroad last 2wks and missing DW very much, returning Fri...can't wait!!! On one of our usual phone chats few days back, discussion moved into clothes, lingere etc. she's trying to loose wgt. Light bulb moment: get some lingere to be delivered for her b/4 I arrive as a surprise, n also encourage her on her weight loss as well. Also it will put some vim back into the lovemaking....getting of the boil a bit. Checked her fav shop online, and thought about these, as she's not got any red in mega lingere collection:

www.lasenza.co.uk/dd/level3.aspx?d=21&type=&style=702042&product=010011157z&im g=SS1010_27&drsize=36E&colour=50

While on the net though I read that red is not currently in fashion, and sort of a no no.
Question is: Does it matter if the colour is out of fashion? I don't mean it for everyday use, but wkend away stuff. Also, given that she hasn't got any red herself, does it not signal she does not like that colour. she has a few dresses in red though.

Also she is of caribbean origin, and I was wondering whether it wld look good on her given the skin colour contrast. btw, she's all curvy and hr glass!

Share some thoughts ladies.....and bail out a confused man, wld like to please my DW!!! thnx

I don't think the colour matters if it's in fashion or not

Personally I'd be a bit at some lingerie being delivered before you came home though, as I'd think I was expected to wear it for you and that would p me off!

Not sure how this would encourage her weight loss either.. unless you are planning to buy it in a size too small, if so that is a very bad idea!

I think you are trying to get some cheap thrills.

Jog on.

cheap frills more like.

I shall be kind and assume you are 'real'.

She's feeling fat and not at all sexy, so you think sending her tarty (which is what red tends to say) cheap undies is the way to relight her fire? Back to the drawing board i'd say. But you do get points for thinking of sending a present.

I think it's quite sweet that you are thinking of her and have asked advice. Don't know if lingerie is what I would want as a gift though especially because she's losing weight etc.

I think you are all being a bit harsh, he is a man after all .

Maybe send her a voucher and a nice letter telling her to buy her self something nice to wear, tell her how proud you are of her and tell her you will be taking her out somewhere posh (to eat) when you return.

I second Lovebeing34,

weird present for someone trying to lose weight

I agree, buying lingerie for a woman who is trying to lose weight is playing with your life. It is very sweet that you want to do something nice for her, but for gawd sake don't get lingerie. When my dh buys me some frillies, I feel like a cheap whore (think Pretty Woman). I know he means well, but most women are very particular about the kind of undies they'll wear. Only your dw will know how to buy something that will flatter her figure. She needs to fit it on and feel comfortable in it. Also you run the risk of buying the wrong size. If you buy it too big, she will be devastated. If you buy it too small, she will think that you are hinting at her weight. You really do have a death wish if you go through with this. Rather buy her a gift card (as others have suggested) preferably from a store that has a wide range of clothing - not just lingerie. Then she can buy something that she really likes and won't feel pressurised into performing for her horny, just returned from a business trip dh, while feeling like a stuffed armadillo.

Well as she's your wife, you should know better than anyone what she would and wouldn't like.

On your head be it, if you send her red underwear ( and she doesn't already wear that kind of thing), she may think you want her to look like a whore and it also implies that she isn't sexy enough for you as she is now.
If you are looking to spice up your sex life, this is just about the worst idea you could come up with tbh.

Oh please don't buy undercrackers I can't tell you how much many women hate getting knickers bought for them. They aren't a 'gift' unless they are exceptionally comfortable and they probably won't be that unless she chooses them herself. And it just screams 'I'm expecting a shag with extras' which is a bit off-putting IMO.

Send flowers.

The knickers would be for you.

How can you tell if this is genuine or not. I would have replied with gestures that might help better than underwear.

~but seems you lot have said he is a troll.

I think a card telling her all the things you've told us would be lovely - how much you've missed her, how excited you are to see her, how gorgeous you think she is (esp. important if she's feeling a little large) & how you can't wait to make a fuss of her shortly...tell her to think of a perfact day & you'll do it to the letter!

i like Floopy's idea - my first instinct was the gift voucher approach for a nice shop. LaSenza is good, because if she's offended by the gesture she can get some cosy pyjamas to spite you.

I thought you only got paid for clicks on links? Your link didn't work, you need to do it like this.

maybe he is just bored away on business, I would agree with others, underwear is for you, in giving her undies, you are telling her you want your wicked way, and it is all about you, flowers are the way to go!

Newlyarrived... I too will make a leap of faith and assume you a genuine. I can't add very much to what has already been said, but this is what I'd do:

1. To answer your question: Do NOT buy underwear for your wife ahead of your return. Previous posters have already explained that you'd be walking on very thin ice doing that. Very high risk strategy, that.

2. The idea of surprising your DW should be more romantic than driven by your second brain. So book a cozy restaurant, go to a smart bar beforehand (if poss), taxis there & back. Childcare arranged if needed.

Rremember, not too smart/posh as this can be quite unrelaxing.

3. Give her time get ready (ie don't give her 5 mins or try to hurry her along) and if you have children, make sure you look after them while she has a bath (you know, the one that you have drawn for her, complete with smellies, dressing gown next to the bath and an ice cold G&T etc)

4. Do not expect a shag or show frustration of you don't get jumped upon as soon as you get back home.

5. Make her a breakfast on saturday. Eggs benedict + OJ?

Here Ended The Lesson

As you were.

Arse. Endeth, not Ended.

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Newlyarrived or Justcome ?

I'm obviously rubbish at troll-spotting.