Got myself emotionally involved with a man not emotionally available- he wasn't over his wife who has left him.
We started as friends- long distance by phone- then he moved the boundaries and became very hot. I resisted for a while but was gradually sucked in as we had lots in common and really clicked, as well as a shared history- knew him vaguely a long time back.
I really started to care for him, but knew all along he was not really free. He said lots of stuff implying he cared for me and how much I meant etc etc.
As soon as I started to respond in the way he was inviting me to, he backed off. Then blew hot, then backed off. Until he seems to have backed off altogether.
I feel hurt and that he used me as an ego boost. I really believed that he cared. I have kept a dignified silence and tried to keep the friendship ticking over as I do genuinely like him, and we did start as friends.
Not sure whether to have it out with him, let him know I am disappointed at his obvious change of behaviour, or just drift away and take the big hint he is giving.