Dear ivescrewedup
You haven't told us much about your situation - most frustrating of all, how much you drink, or what happens when you drink - but I can't help noticing that, within a short post, "stop drinking" becomes "cut down".
It is not for me to say whether your husband is right or not, or whether he helps or hinders you (and he doesn't sound like the most supportive of men) - but I must say that that, coupled with the idea that your drinking is his fault, are classic behaviour for problem drinkers.
I can remember thinking once upon a time, "when I get a decent job, and a bit of money coming in, and a partner, I'll be less stressed and I'll cut right back on my drinking." Within six months, all three had come true. I remembered what I'd said about cutting down on drinking. And it scared the shit out of me.
Imagine if these irritations ceased totally tomorrow. By your own admission, you would then have no cause to drink. Would you stop completely? Or cut right down to, say, government guidelines (14 ubits a week for women, if I recall correctly)? Do you feel okay about that idea or does it terrify you?
If the latter, maybe your irritating, unsupportive, lazy husband has a point.
And, though I don't know all the facts, I would be astounded to learn that anyone had issued this sort of ultimatum because you have "the odd drink".