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So..... what do you call your ex?

31 replies

purpleduck · 27/05/2010 22:13

This is directed mainly to people who have an amicable break-up, so no saying "c*unt or "twat" please

"Ex" sounds like he's been eliminated in some sort oF semi final event.... "Children's dad" sounds a bit clinical ..."co-parent?" Yuk!
So is there a good term? I've been racking my brain!!!

OP posts:
mole1 · 27/05/2010 22:18

Ex - no imagination here, sorry, but then it wasn't an amicable break-up.

scaredoflove · 27/05/2010 22:26

Ex - Exhusband - childrens dad - his name, as most people I speak to about him know him

All depends on who I'm talking to

foureleven · 27/05/2010 22:29

If its someone who knew us when we were together I say his name but when talking to anyone who didnt, and definitely DP, I call him DD's dad.

To DD I call him Daddy.

To his face I call him..... Oh, sorry you said not to say c*unt or twat!

Over40 · 27/05/2010 22:45

My ex's name starts with an "s" and I used to get pissed off going through the large number of s's in my mobile to find his number. So I decided to put his details under a letter I only had one other name in..... which turned out to be under "L".
So now I have to give him a nickname starting with L..... and it came to me! Lying scumbag! A perfect descriptive fit!!!!! Now this was a long time ago and he is still under L. Keep thinking I ought to change it as my DD is old enough to read it now!

ClimbingClematis · 27/05/2010 23:02

H.A.P.P.Y. cos it the last word i would use to describe him. He is a miserable twunt.
I used to spell it out in front od DD so she wouldn't know what i was on about!!

Selfishlaptopuser · 27/05/2010 23:08

The kids Dad, although we did most emphatically NOT have an amicable break up. I find it quite soothing to refer to him in that way because it means he still belongs to them but does not refer to me at all.

ChasingSquirrels · 27/05/2010 23:10

depends who I am talking to

"your dad/daddy" to the ds's
"his name" to people who know him/know history of us
"ex" (or sometimes "the children's dad" depending on the circumstances that mentioning him has arisen) to casual acquaintances

booyhoo · 27/05/2010 23:10

gary

littlestmummystop · 27/05/2010 23:28

C*nt

Mouseface · 27/05/2010 23:43

DS - those are his initials..... so that's how he is in my phone.

DD calls him 'the dad!'

New DH is known as daddy by all.

whoingodsnameami · 27/05/2010 23:46

Mr muscle, because he is a skinny runt

akhems · 28/05/2010 07:19

fuckface usually

Snorbs · 28/05/2010 08:26

When talking to DCs I refer to her as either "mummy" or "your mummy". With mutual friends I use her name, with others she's normally "my children's mum". In my own head she's either "firstname-bloody-lastname", "The Fuck-Up Fairy" or "8 Ace".

laurielou · 28/05/2010 08:30

Ex was called Richard so I take great delight in calling him Dick.

Hassled · 28/05/2010 08:32

"My older children's father". If I say "Ex-husband", it seems to imply I'm not married now, which I am.

Strangely, younger DCs (from second marriage) have been known to refer to him as their step-Dad, on the basis that their Dad is older DCs' step-Dad. There's a sort of logic to their thinking, but it's confused the hell out of teachers .

mumof2teenboys · 28/05/2010 09:00

I try not to call him anything if I can possibly avoid it.

When discussing him with his sons, I call him 'your dad'. They refer to him as bio-thingy or sperm-donor In their defence, it was a violent, abusive break-up and he has been a shit dad ever since.

The boys are now 17 and 20 and their dad and I divorced 15 years ago, so time has healed a lot of the wounds for all of us.

Anniegetyourgun · 28/05/2010 09:02

"Him no longer indoors"

lazarusb · 28/05/2010 09:23

In my phone, as his name begins with A, I have put him in under W for 'wanker'. It really suits him and I don't have to see his name when I scroll through my contact list

Unlikelyamazonian · 28/05/2010 10:48

Aresewipe

Unlikelyamazonian · 28/05/2010 10:49

sorry...Arsewipe

SoupDragon · 28/05/2010 10:50

Arse.

"their father"

Hodie · 28/05/2010 10:58

Cockroach.

LisaD1 · 28/05/2010 14:10

Depends, to my DD I call him her dad (she calls my DH daddy and her "real dad" dad)

I usually refer to him as "cockboy" as he thinks with his cock and is still mentally a boy! He used to be in my phone/hotmail as that but DD is old enough to read and repeat!

Gay40 · 29/05/2010 00:50

Hassled, my friend's children do this too. She had two DCs with her first husband and they divorced amicably. He remained close to her and her family and would go to family occasions.
She has another two DCs with her second husband, and her younger children ADORE their "stepdad" and insist he has to be invited to their birthday parties etc.

beanlet · 29/05/2010 10:47

First husband to people who don't know him (we've both remarried), his name to people he does. Arsehole in my head.

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