Publish and be damned?

[babehunmug]

Hi - newbie on here. I'm thinking about writing a blog or facebook page about cheating DH. I've got photos of OW that her friends (I know who they are from her FB page)and family would be shocked to see and know that my DH took them. His work mates/boss would also be shocked about the dates and times - when he was supposed to be working.

DH and OW have caused me great pain and I want to show her friends and family what a slut she is.

Am I going too far? Should I rise above it?

Have you ever gone for revenge?

Thanks

Don't do it.
Be cleverer than that.
Keep your ammunition. It might have a bigger impact at some other time.

OP, almost everyone I know who has got divorced (a fair few, inc. my parents) has gone on to have a really great relationship, probably the one that is right for them at that point in their lives, so you've got lots to look forward to!

Anything with legal issues like this is so tricksy. The law can be a bastard sometimes and even the most straightforward-looking things never are. You don't need this hassle.

OMG, I read your OP so wrong! Sorry

I thought you wanted to come out about your ex. About the OW? No way. She didn't make any vows to you; he did. I'm sure she's a prat but you don't have the moral right to publish her cheesy photos.

Having said that, go ahead if you want to but I reckon it'll just make you look like a mad stalker. Better you announce that you're glad to be rid of the two-faced, weak-willed weight around your neck that used to be your husband.

Yes the only thing that could make him feel anything would be to shrug and say, do you know this is all such a load off my mind... I feel liberated.

I know that seems like a cop out now because it feels like letting him away with it, but nothing you could do or say would make him feel guilty. He'll just feel unable to process his guilt and he will relabel it as annoyance 'with you'.

That Bad Boyfriend Club website is brilliant, I am like this .

I agree with people saying don't do it. Not just because of the stalkerish/slander angle though. My ex is a first-class bastard who owes me quite a lot of money, who left me in a very shabby way. I simmered underneath and when mutual friends asked me if I was ok I didn't air dirty laundry. Ex thought he was safe and about a year later started making creepy comments to me about sex (flirting, basically). Then he asked me if I were cross with him (!)

So I told him, publicly, precisely why I thought the was a miserable excuse for a human being and reminded him of what he'd done.

Virtually all our mutual friends were vocally on my side, including friends who had been his close friends before they were mine. If I had got nasty early on, it'd have been swept under the carpet as 'bad breakup', you see.

If you hold off, you always have ammo for later.

Set up a facebook profile under an assumed name.

Post the photos with no comment - and let the images speak for themselves.

Sue, if you set up a facebook profile under a false name, you'd have to invite/name people in the photos, and you'd get into dodgy ground both with FB's policies and with stalking. I know someone who set up a fake profile to spy on her ex - facebook were able to work out that it was her.

The best revenge is to move on and become a more successful and happy person! x

there must be a better way to get revenge

revenge is a dish best served cold

dont do anything like this as will backfire

sorry for you

Are you a published bitch yet KM?

MagalyZz
'but nothing you could do or say would make him feel guilty. He'll just feel unable to process his guilt and he will relabel it as annoyance 'with you'. '

This is exactly what he is doing! How do you know this stuff.

Thanks

Oh I feel your pain.

But pleas erise abov eit. It'll do your sanity much more good than to try for revenge. The best revenge will be to show the useless prick that you dont need him and can have a far more fabulous life without him.

Plus, karma is wonderful

Looked up bad boyfriend club thanks for that.
I googled the bad husband club and found a FB page for it but its a rock band

If I were you I would print out all the pictures you have and 'accidently drop' the whole lot somewhere you know people they know will find them.

But I'm a bitch, and I've been where you are and I'd love some vengance!

Whatever you decide to do, good luck

babiehunmug, I'd love to tell you that I read it in a magazine or my friend told me....... but my relationship history has been kind of, um, disastrous chequered. I'm happy to be single now. there's a calm equilibrium to it that I am really valuing now.

The best revenge is to have a fabulous life and be happy

was it something like 'how stella got her groove back'. never saw it but saw a clip and thought 'that looks good'.