unrequited love

[unrequitedandrelivingitdaily]

if you have fallen in love with someone from afar ,but they aren't interested ,but you have to see them all the time,so every time you see them you have a little lurch and fall in love a little bit then remember they aren't interested again then get over it,only for it to happen again the next day, despite avoiding them as much as possible,what else can you do to forget about it

explain what that means,"don't tell him,he's a man"

there is a lot of chemistry,but I like him more than he likes me,imho

Look, how do you know he doesn't like you as much as you like him?

Is he available, are you?

So you would always be on the back foot in a relationship then, wouldn't you?

Lynette is right- throw yourself out there and find somebody else will return your feelings.

And you know it would be a bad idea to say anything: it is in your own words in your OP...they aren't interested.

Stop torturing yourself- you are wasting your own time here and hurting yourself pointlessly.

I don't know for sure he isn't interested,he might be.
I just think it's unlikely he's as interested as me.

Oh, for gods sake...o fcourse he's interested in you!!! You need your self esteem sorting out.

Don't tell him how you feel, though. As i've said he's a mand ( I really can't explain myself here).

You need to engineer something, so you can get together. Not knowing the circumstances, though I can't help with that.

you are so in if you want to be!

I have no idea how you know that !!

He is extremely interested in me you know as a person and everything,but I can't explain,it's as if it's up to him to make the move,because I know how I feel,I'm waiting to see how he feels...

and again,being a man if he is into me he will make that move,,they do,don't they

No, men do not always make the first move....I think you are going to have to do something here (maybe engineer something fake like you were "given" tickets to a oncer/cinema/you really want to try a new resultant but have no one to go with).

why do you think I am in...are you a hopeless romantic too??

I just want a sign from him,or to express myself a bit better to him so as to get a response back

Fuck sake.

He's only a man, you need a 'sign'?!, he's not some deity, he sits on the loo and picks his nose just like every other bloke.

Ask him out, see what happens. If he says thanks but no thanks, then you can get move on from it.

If he says yes please, then you can see how the relationship goes.

Do not wade in declaring undying love or you'll terrify him.

don't want to ask him out until I have guaged his feelings for me a bit more

no need to swear either

Get over him and get under someone else, job done.

well the point is,it's him I want

Sorry if ripe language offends!

I stand by my point however. You don't lose anything by asking.

I do if it's not the right timing,so he might not feel the same yet

Oh come oooooonnnnnn, you sound a bit desperate, if you want him, ask him. It really is that simple.

If he says 'no', you'll get over your crush soon enough.

well that's it really..he could well know and be thinking I am a bit desperate so I am hiding it until he shows some interest

until he asks me out i mean

Quite right CelticBanshee!

In my experience, men either fancy you straight away or they don't. At all. Ever.

I have lots of male friends and never have I known one of them to suddenly develop an attraction to someone they didn't already fancy. If you see what I mean.

So you're waiting for him to ask you? Fair enough, obviously we don't know your dynamic so can't really judge whether or not he's going to do so.

You think he will?

Yes I'm waiting for him to ask me...

I know it's a case of saving face but ime interested men do usually show their interest so I'm loathe to ask him out and be turned down and still have to mix with him.

So sometimes I drop hints or flirt a bit and sometimes I don't...it is a bit wearing but we are getting to know each other better I suppose

I feel for you OP - I am sure I have been in this position before (in fact I was always convinced I was in love with all my BF's before DH). Are you sure it is not the idea of him that you have fallen in love with not actually him?

As someone else said - he is like any other bloke, he will pick his nose and fart in bed. Do you really want to spoil that illusion?

Is it possible you may have built this whole thing up around him because you are still hurting from another failed relationship that you thought was the one? From what I remember that is what I always found with myself. Usually about 6 months to a year after said failed relationship.