I saw a thread this afternoon

[KemalsStilletto]

I was at the library this afternoon on the internet and I saw a thread, a very nasty one from someone called Rhianna about her sister. I unfortunately could not post on the thread from the library as I was supposed to be doing work on my webwise course and I'm not sure where it has gone, but Rhianna25 is my sister I am totally ashamed to say, and yes, I am the sister who is worried about conceiving. I am so upset someone I trusted to go to with my problems could be so damn nasty and I have been in tears since I saw the post. I would have replied there and then but had to go from course to docs and just got home now. I would like to thank all you wonderful mumsnetters who commented on what a witch she is. I just have to sort some things out and will be back to defend myself further in about an hour or so.

fimbelle, this thread was created after the "nasty" one. The "nasty" one was deleted by mnhq later on yesterday. HTH.

How are you feeling today KS?

Hi guys, thanks for all your continued support...wonderful to know I have such nice friends on Mumsnet. Today has been ok, haven't spoken to her since having a huge row when she came home yesterday. She then went off to her boyfriends and havent seen her since so I just got on with my ironing today and just finished now! We also had a cute young cat miaowing at the window. The dogs went mad so I locked them away and let the cat in. It looks like the cat perhaps had kittens recently and has been abandoned by its owner because the cat was lactating and obviously in some discomfort becuase the milk wasnt going anywhere. I phoned the RSPCA and they said they wouldnt come for it and I dont drive so couldnt take it but gave her some water and some milk and then took her round the neighbours to see if she was theres. One man was acting all suspicious and probably did abandon her and her kittens but I coulnt prove it so I took her home and the next door neighbour, who loves cats, took her in for me and I keep going round to check on her. She's lovely - so friendly and bonny! If I didnt have the dogs I would keep her but my dogs happiness comes first and one of them would eat the cat!!!, the other got boxed by the cat around the ears and i'm not having no intruder cat boxing the dogs, but she is soooo lovely !!!

You sound in much higher spirits today. I really felt for you having to read what your sister wrote.

As for the cat, I think it's a good idea to give her to your next door neighbour. At least you can go and visit her whenever you want. My cat is a pain. Since having dd, she competes for attention and wakes me up at 4 every morning, which also wakes up dd. Grrr!

I am in much higher spirits today. Can't nobody get me down! The cat was more attention seeking than a child, kept coming to be pampered while I was trying to do my laundry! My next door neighbour let the cat out to use the toilet before and it hasnt come back, so maybe gone back to it's rightful home hopefully. I hope its got nice owners because my neighbour cant keep it because it's fighting with her cats now, so someone will have to take it in or it will get hungry. I'm sure someone will, anyway. I'm wondering whether I should go to asda to get some ice cream to accompany tonights big brother??? hmm, means me getting dressed coz I just had a shower, but it will be awfully tasty! Just to put the record straight too, I'm not desperate for a baby at this moment in time, because I would rather be financially, physically and mentally stable and have my own home in a rural location to be able to support a child the best I can and i'm not all of the above right now so I am perfectly happy to wait until my partner and I are stable, I was just concerned about whether I will ever have a child of my very own, but i'm not in any rush right now and neither is my partner.

It is quite normal to worry about whether you will be able to conceive, even if you don't plan to have a child right away. I felt the same way years before I planned to have children.

Definitely treat yourself to ice cream. You deserve it!

KS you do sound happier today, I'm glad about this. You should do what you want to do and if that means holding back with babies then so be it...Things will fall into place once the time is right for you & your partner. You sound as though you have your head screwed on. Don't worry to much about the future with babies, just go with the flow, chill and enjoy making them .