I've cracked and now feel silly and humiliated...

[HideMyPhone]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/965437-I-think-I-39-m-dumped-but-need-some-second

I started the above link last week. After not hearing from a new boyfriend who was having trouble with his exDP, I was adamant that I wouldn't ask him where I stand. I was determined to be cool about it all, but I've been tearing my hair out.

I just tried to phone him - no answer; tried his mobile - engaged. I'm only human and I just can't take this limbo any more so I texted him asking him to call me, regardless of what he wants to say to me. Told him he should be fair to me.

Nothing so far... I feel such a bloody fool. What now? I know this may seem pretty 'teenage' compared to some of the problems on here, but here I am, all alone and crying over it all. I just can't believe that someone who seemed so nice would turn around and treat me so badly.

Someone once rang and told me they loved me to pieces and they very next day changed their phone number!

HideMyPhone

The reason for him dumping you seems to be that you have too much baggage. Your thread tells of an abusive exh. Perhaps you told this man too much too soon, and he sees you as a victim, so treats you like a victim. Maybe he feels that if other men failed to value you, that you have no value. Ofcourse he is totally wrong. Perhaps it would be an idea to keep you past abuse from whatever quarter, parents, husbands etc, to yourself, until a firm and trusting relationship has been established. By then the boyfriend will have seen your good points. Maybe he was afraid he would have to listen to stories about your past and be your counsellor. Not much fun, especially when a relationship is new.

Be fun, laughter and fun are attractive, stories of abuse turn new men off.

BaggyAgy ???

Don't think you've read my posts properly! My thread doesn't tell of an abusive exh at all. Men don't fail to value me.

I haven't been telling him stories of abuse. Seriously, have you posetd on the wrong thread?

I think the guy meant he had too much baggage, not the OP!

Yes! maduggar is right.

OK, just re-read my posts on here and I mention a text from this guy in which he finished it saying 'too much baggage' - just to clarify, he meant he had too much baggage, not me! My (admittedly nasty) exDH has been out of my life for 2 years. I've completely dumped the baggage.

• And I never once whinged about my ex to the new guy... we had loads of fun (until he told his ex about me)! I'm loads of fun!!!

So, you reckon he basically strung you along to get back with his ex? words fail me. What are they like?

Hi, if I have sorry. I thought his reason for dumping you was "too much baggage" and assumed that you had told him all bout your past. Sorry again, and good luck