I've cracked and now feel silly and humiliated...

[HideMyPhone]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/965437-I-think-I-39-m-dumped-but-need-some-second

I started the above link last week. After not hearing from a new boyfriend who was having trouble with his exDP, I was adamant that I wouldn't ask him where I stand. I was determined to be cool about it all, but I've been tearing my hair out.

I just tried to phone him - no answer; tried his mobile - engaged. I'm only human and I just can't take this limbo any more so I texted him asking him to call me, regardless of what he wants to say to me. Told him he should be fair to me.

Nothing so far... I feel such a bloody fool. What now? I know this may seem pretty 'teenage' compared to some of the problems on here, but here I am, all alone and crying over it all. I just can't believe that someone who seemed so nice would turn around and treat me so badly.

He didn't tell you last week because he wanted to keep you hanging.

Just ignore him he isn't worth anymore of your time.

Too right... lesson learned. He can go and be complicated somewhere else.

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This sounds like further proof that this knobber is one of those who really likes to rub people's noses in it. He's so wonderfully open and honest that he had to tell his XP he was dating someone else, and now in the interests of bigging up his own wonderful honesty, he's going to rub your nose in the fact that he's dumped you.
Don't take his call, delete any texts from him unread and if he does do something tiresome like showing up outside your workplace, just say 'There's nothing to discuss. Please go away.'

sunshines - you're right, he was stringing her along incase the Ex said no - who wants to place money on the Ex being bored within a week and this twat coming crawling back at which point HidemyPhone should be being utterly fabulous and FAR FAR FAR too busy to speak to this knobber

Yes! You're fortifying me. Fantastic advice.

I'm not just saying this, but tonight has been made much easier with you lot on my side.

oh and if he does do something as tedious as turn up PLEASE say something along the lines of

'I'm sorry, I had hoped that my not contacting you for a while would make your realise that I'm really not interested, I was just wondering though if you still have that CD/Book?something of mine - that was the only reason I called - apologies if I gave you the impression it was something else' all the while smiling and being FABULOUS

twat

sunshine...we are obviously sympatico

yes, I agree with sgb, I think this balloon will do a couple more "grand gestures"

cue turning up out of the blue

cue late night suicidal phone call

cue "woe is meeeeee, I've made such a mistake, I am suuuuuch a tossserrrr" speech

all bollocks and not worth wiping your arse on

Yes,dizzydixies,spot on.

You go have some fun HideMyPhone.

What a loser.

Yeah - and I'm gonna make sure I look ultra fabulous too, all the time, just in case he does turn up.

(not sure what it will achieve but it will make me feel strangely powerful!)

dittany...I have my stopwatch set for, oooh, about a week and a half

I'll keep you posted!

Oooo - Shall we do a sweepstake?

dittany, you've given him a lot longer than I have - I think the exgf will be bored with him in a week and he'll be back shortly after

off to bed now, HMP

keep us updated won't you ?

x

Will do! Thanks AF - you and the others have kept me smiling tonight.

I say a week.

I think update's is what's called for here.

Bet Anyfucker is right,as alway's

For all the mnetters who hepled me out with sound advice the other night, I thought you might like an update.

Had another text (why doesn't he just bloody phone ffs?) on Tuesday morning saying he hoped I was ok and could we stay in touch and who knows for the future...

I am sooo not gonna let him know I care (which I sort of don't any more!) so I sent a breezy one back saying it was all fine, etc. Very short and non-committal. Told him I was relieved that we'd finished - ha! I'll be no one's back up plan, thanks very much. If he ever does think we can hook up again he'll be sorely disappointed.

So tonight... a smiley face. Just a smiley face in a text message from him.

I'm not replying...

Don't beat yourself up. You needed to know where you stood. Why shouldn't we demand this girls. If he freaks out, which he clearly has then you know that he isn't interested. You can do so much better.

Was his name "john" from nottingham by any chance?

I had exactly this done to me 2 years ago.

It makes me very sad to think that I probably got off with some poor woman's husband.

he dumped my by text, then when I rang him, outraged, to demand an explanation, he asked if we could "still be friends".

"Er, no. My friends don't behave like that. You're not good enough to be my friend. Bye."

Can't believe that anyone thinks it's ok to dump by text can you? Same happened here. Cowardly I'd say...

I think just the fact he's texting rather than phoning (at the very least) shows how little he thinks of you, I can't understand why anyone would discuss their relationship over a text .. You are much better than him, go out and have some fun with someone who is single.

Hold on to your hats ladies........my now xh text me, oh yes text, that our marriage was over. What a man eh!