Hi, I am a bit of a newbie after lots of lurking.
I have recently finished with my dp about 7 weeks ago after 7 years. We are being fairly amicable, although that is rapidly going down hill whilst we are together in the same house. Hopefully he will be moving by next weekend, which will make mine and the childrens life a bit easier.
However, I cant help but feel like I am being held to ransom over child access and money. If I say anything to upset him he will start saying how he wont look after the children to "help me out" and will see them when it is "practical" for him. Probably a bit stupidly on my behalf I said that if he wasnt going to "help me out" I wouldnt help him out and would go to the CSA which wasnt a very good idea and I shouldnt have sunk to his level but it really annoyed me so much. He then said that if I went to the CSA he would give up his relationship with his children.
He knows that I dont have any family help for child care so if I wanted to go out any where he would need to have them and is manipulating me over it, but I cant get him to stop it.
I dont really know what the point of my post is but I really wanted to share and get it off my chest.