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nuva ring and sex advice needed

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 17:38

have been advised to try nuva ring as the pill doesn't agree with me. coil didn't agree with me either.

so... question is for anyone tried it..

how the heck does it stay in there for 21 days? and not get dislodged during sex?

and... how noticable is it? am i going to feel like i permananently have a moon cup up there

thianks in advance

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 17:38

sorry, typing with a toddler hanging off my arm apologies for spelling

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bargainhuntingbetty · 09/05/2010 17:39

Never heard of it but I could have written this post so am watching with great interest.

BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 17:40

Ooh that is interesting, are you in the UK? I always heard that the nuvaring was only available in the US, so good if it is coming here, another option is always good.

I haven't tried one evidently, but if it is like a mooncup I wouldn't expect to feel it as I can't feel my mooncup at all when it's in. I expect though that it would be more like a cap in placement, have you ever tried one?

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 18:23

well i had a mooncup. although i never really felt it. i was aware of it. iykwim. and i cant imagine having sex with it in there?.. surely i would notice it? doctors are advising i wont notice it at all

yes.. uk.

they dont keep a stock everywhere as need refridgerated aparently.

but.. i've to make appointment with family planning to prescribe a prescription if i want to go ahead with it.

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BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 18:28

Yes but a mooncup sits very low down - at the entrance of the vagina, whereas a nuvaring I think is further up at the entrance to the cervix. The penis shouldn't even really reach where it is, I don't think, so no I don't think you'd notice it. Like you wouldn't notice a diaphragm or cap.

I wonder if it's a fairly new thing here then if bhb has been offered it too, and not many replies here hence not very well known yet?

I wonder if you looked on an American or Canadian website you might find some posts on it. The only one I know of is ivillage.com, not sure what their forums are like, I used to use the ivillage.co.uk forums and they were quite open about sex/contraception etc on there.

expatinscotland · 09/05/2010 18:31

It sits up by your cervix, the way a diaphragm would or coil strings might stretch if they haven't been trimmed well or softened.

Your partner shouldn't feel it.

I used it in the US and had a well-endowed partner and he couldn't feel it.

It's new in the UK, however.

The hormones bypass the digestive system and liver so can be used in some who cannot take the combined pill.

BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 18:31

Here ivillage.com forums on birth control

Wikipedia article with picture

nickschick · 09/05/2010 18:33

I thought she meant one of those vibrating cock rings and thought well I put mine on dh ...not up my lulu .

BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 18:33

Oh and I found this page where people are discussing using a nuvaring and a mooncup at the same time with a useful diagram which shows both positions.

I am sure my mooncup tends to sit a lot lower than this though.

community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/503807.html

BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 18:38

I am liking the sound of this the more research I do, by the way Let us know how you get on with it if you do decide to go for it!

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 18:48

see.... i have a well-endowed "friend" i occasioanly meet up with. he definately hits my cervix. we have to be careful as certain positions can do what i can only describe as bruise my cervix if we are a bit rough . not sure if that makes sense. but he does reach.

so surely he would feel it? he has concerns that it may come out or... as he puts it "end up with a tiny condom type thing clinging to his tip"

i think i am going to go ahead with it for the sake of trying it out.

docs say even if it does become dislodged or move during sex, it should still be effective as the hormone is being released. ?

is this right? kind of like using a cap and taking pill at same time?

expat.. just how thin is it? condom thin is how docs described it.

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expatinscotland · 09/05/2010 18:50

it's very thin and it's open in the middle, so no, seriously, he won't feel it.

my well-endowed partner was a A&E physician himself and he actually, well, out of curiosity, went up there manually to get at it.

but he couldn't feel it during intercourse, no.

i'm pretty comfortable with my body. you have to be the non-squeamish sort, but if you're already using a mooncup then the NuvaRing might be for you .

i'd use it again, but DH has had a vasectomy.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 18:54

berti - i'm reading up those links thank you

no, i'm not squeamish... but why do you say that? what is it about it would put others off?

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expatinscotland · 09/05/2010 18:55

Well, because you have to get it up there!

And some people are really squeamish about touching their bits at all.

Other htan that, I think it's just new here and that's why it's not in as much common use.

BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 18:58

I guess just putting it in and taking it out could be off-putting to some?

Do you have to push it right up into place like a diaphragm, expat, or is it more like inserting a mooncup where you just fold it, pop it in and it sort of gets itself into position?

I am definitely going to see if this is available in my area, I think. The picture of it on the wiki article sealed it for me - it's much thinner/smaller than I was imagining.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 19:11

ah i have hit a problem. says a main side effect is thrush type things and doesn't go well with thrush medication.

i'm quite prone to thrush.

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StarlightMcKenzie · 09/05/2010 19:18

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BertieBotts · 09/05/2010 19:24

Can't speak for the others but the thought of a coil fills me with fear!

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 09/05/2010 19:31

i had a copper coil.

terrible headaches, 2 week period that was very heavy.

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Fenouille · 09/05/2010 19:34

I've used NuvaRing for years (in Europe here) and I was told that I could remove it for up to 2 hours for sex if necessary. DH is not small and we never have any problems with him feeling it. Bertie It goes in more like a mooncup. It's small and pliable - if you're already using a mooncup it isn't any different.

I also use a mooncup and was also worried about having 'something' stuck up there all the time, but it was never a problem. I had one or two days overlap when the NR had to go back in but I was still on my period and apart from making sure they go in in the right order it was no problem at all. Totally different positions.

It's my absolutely favourite contraception method.

Fenouille · 09/05/2010 19:39

DONTTouch can't comment on thrush but I'm quite susceptible to cystitis and was pretty worried it would be aggravating. It never was, but I'd strongly suggest doing a three month trial if you can to check if you have problems. It is soooo much better than any other method I've used it's definitely worth a try.

My gyn also told me that because it's 'local' the dose is a lot lower than other methods.

Fenouille · 09/05/2010 19:44

I sound a bit evangelical don't I? I don't have shares in NR, honest! I just can't believe it's only just arrived in the UK. It's been available in Germany and France for at least 5 years (although we have to pay for contraception here - €45 per quarter - so that may explain the delay).

expatinscotland · 09/05/2010 19:44

'why this and not the merina coil?'

because for a not insignificant number of women, progesten-only contraception like the Mirena carries a number of very negative side effects.

what Fen said for me. i actually had a harder time getting the hang of the mooncup!

StarlightMcKenzie · 09/05/2010 19:46

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Fenouille · 09/05/2010 19:48

Expat same here, the mooncup took me a bit more getting used to, although I used a mooncup before NR.