DP meeting "old friends" via facebook

[GhostInTheBackOfYourHead]

Just wanted to check what other people think of this.

DP went to the pub last night to meet a woman he knew vaguely from primary school. He is 39 now so it has been over 25 years since he saw this person.

This came two hours after he asked me how I'd feel if he went out with a woman (as a friend) that he'd met via DateTheUk. I categorically said I would not be happy with him meeting a woman via a dating site.

He joined this site when we had a short break recently. I have asked him to deregister but he says it's too complicated. Yeah, right.

We don't live together so I don't know what time he got back.

What do you think?

Oh and he posted he was single, looking for a relationship, fun, no strings etc. He updated and paid for new membership last week. I only decided to take him back (after our separation) two days before he did all this.

Then get your profile on there - there's nothing wrong with looking for new friends.

I am so sorry for you about all this, you must be gutted. Onwards and upwards.

he sounds like a total loser.

Thank you fearne

Strangely enough I have no desire to meet new friends on a dating website.

I am gutted but I think I'm also quite relieved. I finally have the proof I saw with my own eyes which has made it easier for me to finish the relationship. I'm more annoyed about his deceit than the lack of a future together. All my friends and family think he's no good for me. I can finally walk away with my head held high.

Good for you, twats always come a cropper!

Well my first assumption would be that he is seeing someone from the dating website and pretending that it is someone from school. Either that or it is a coincidence and this person is both things.

He is making a fool out of you. Do not let him get away with it.

He is taking the piss.

Personally, I would get rid asap.

I have already got rid. I have made it perfectly clear to him that we are over. No room in my life for tossers like that.

Good on you.

Best of luck

Thank you all of you

Well done for getting rid of a tosser like that.

I would think that the 'primary school friend' was in fact the woman he mentioned earlier & be fuming that he went after I said I didn't like it!

Well done, Ghost - trust me you will be much better off

My XH was using "Friend Finder", he said he would stop and when i questioned him as to why it was taking him so long to de-register, he told me that it was really difficult and complicated to delete his account

this was why he was coming home from work everyday at lunchtime and going on Adult FriendFinder - he was attempting to get rid of his account of course he had to answer any message/flirts received while he was there, how bloody rude of him not to, eh?

i had a look and found it straight away so helped him out by deleting it for him, he was

anyway, what angered me most was the fact that he thought i was stupid.

and its all in the past now thankfully,

good luck ghost, and trust me, where these sites are involved youre best of out of it

Ghost you are a a picture of dignity. Good on you.

good for you, OP

this is how cheating, lying twats should be treated...put out with the rubbish

Thanks for the support.
anyFucker I respect your posts and am feeling honoured to get a positive post from you.

He has been trying to convince me all morning by text that everything was innocent and I'm being unreasonable. I think he finally got the picture when I called him a lying cheating scumbag who means nothing to me anymore. Apart from the fact that he is poor DS's father and the concomitant issues surrounding this, I will have nothing further to do with him.

He has already started pulling out of long organised arrangements. He was supposed to be helping DS settle into his new nursery tomorrow while I have therapy but he's cancelled that. Well, the bright side of that is that I don't have to see him. Ds was expecting to see him though.

Tosser.

Not to say I haven't also felt honoured by the posts from other posters

if more women just did not tolerate twatty behaviour like this, we would all be much happier

ghost...I suspect he will up the arsiness now because you haven't rolled over and pandered to his bare-faced lies, like he expected you to

disappointing his child ? Low behaviour and not worthy of a father...

OUTRAGED out your lack of honour

No, seriously it sonds as if you have a long bumpy road ahead of you, good luck.

Good Lord, the bumps have started.

When I asked him to move out of my flat last Oct he went back to live with his dad. Where he'd been living since he was 16 and moved from his mother's. XP has just contacted me to say his dad's house is about to be reposessed (sp?) and can I help XP with being rehoused otherwise he won't be able to see DS at weekends.

I told him that at the age of 39 it was possibly time to take some responsibility for himself.

I'm furious on behalf of poor oblivious 2 year old DS.

Don't Do It!

I split from x when our DX was 2 and on that same day he had a reason why I needed to help him get on his feet. I gave him '000s and a car. When I eventually made him take some responsibility for himself, he was so used to me sorting him out he felt he deserved it (I was working, looking after DS and paying for the house completely on my own!). Cue years of bullying and lack of respect and general crappyness...all because I thought I was being nice. I should have just split from him nice and clean at the time.

DS not DX!

He's already had thousands £ out of me. Gave him two grand out of my redundancy money to help pay off his credit card. He subsequently applied for bankruptcy. I have also supported the four of us (I have a DD also) whilst he has fannied around, claiming dole money.

Even if I wanted to help him financially I couldn't as I'm now on Employment Support Allowance (incapacity).

I think he was after a letter to say I'd kicked him out or somesuch nonsense.

He can go jump.

Well done for not trying to convince yourself he Wuvs You Weally. THis is the sort of bloke who doesn't really like women very much, he wants one around to do the sort-of-family thing with, maybe - ie cook for him and have a DC or two so he can demonstrate publicly that his cock works, but he also wants to have no strings sex with other women -the key factor being he can't be arsed to cover his tracks very well, because neither the regular partner nor the casual shags are that important to him.
Keep calm, get a little legal advice re maintenance etc if need be, and congratulate yourself on being well out of such an uninspiring and unecessary relationship.

oh and fearne I'm glad you're out of that relationship now. Is he still making life unpleasant for you?