I am fuming!
For weeks I have been pushing him to get on with the DIY. The patio is nearly finished, the hall is now started, it took my weeks to get my sons room decorated for him moving back in and I did it myself in the end, as well as running the house every day, the school run, their diaries, washing every day, cooking, tidying up, supporting friends, being his PA and running by own events business!
We were sitting in the lounge and my glass of wine had finished. I hinted that it could do with topping up and after a couple of minutes he got us saying in a really nasty tone "Why don't you just get off your arse and do it yourself?"
In the 5 years I have known my husband he has never said anything like this to me. I was really upset and said something along the lines of "Well next time you can cook your own bloody tea then" and he said "I normally do" . For the record, he does not, I do it!!
What hurts me most is that I have saved my wages for months and later in the month it is his birthday and I have organised a black tie James Bond themed dinner/dance/casino night and all our friends and family are attending from as far away as Canada and he knows nothing of it. It is costing me around £3k and I have organised this in total secret for the last 13 months because I believe he is worth it and I love him to bits, but tonight he has really shocked/hurt me with what he said and we have always had such a high level of respect for each other (or so I thought) that it makes me think that things are changing for him. I feel I work really hard for my family, as he does and his comments tonight make me think he believes I am slacking and that he is carrying the weight.
Now I want to be all petulant and cancel his party!
Please somebody calm me down and prevent me ringing the hotel tomorrow and cancel the bloody birthday party!
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My Husband has just told me "to get off my arse"!
Fruitysunshine · 04/05/2010 00:19
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