ahem - is it permanent?.......................

[prettyfly1]

hey guys long time no speak. most of you knwo situation with ex and how awful it was. Baby is now three months old. went out last night and met someone attractive who i thought was nice and funny and he came back to mine with a few others, got the old butterflys going on and then when he made a move i just froze and instantly went off him. I still have urges but to b honest the idea and reality of letting anyone near me makes my skin crawl. I know this is some kind of phsychological reaction to exs treating me like an unpaid lady of the night shall we say but i dont know how to change it. I feel horribly unnatractive and undesirble as it is without being frigid!!! Help have any of the rest of you felt like this...l..

Got me a Chrysler, its as big as a whale, and its about to set sail...

I fully intend to show DS the way - and ex-p will never forego MTV2 as prime TV, Reuben is sorted . . . I just have to work on his respect to women . . .

Rock Lobster! tis an awesome tune . .

Now it is the Fall, I'm Frank!

would you two like to swap numbers heh heh only messing. glad to see you guys getting on though. just looked at the 52 message thing and hought bloody hell i aint that desperate then read through and laughed. i think that is commonly known as a hijack!!

Hi pretty fly

I'm sorry, I don't know much about your situation with your ex but I just want you too know that I have felt exactly the same way. I was with my ex for nine years and the last fifteen months was hell, he had an affair (and is still with) with a 16 year old school girl and generally made and well still is, my life a misery.

I found blokes attractive, I even had 2 blind dates with 2 guys of the internet who made a move and I ran a mile even though I fancied them (they were sleazy though). I even had a bit of a fling with a fella from work who I was very attracted to, he even came back to mine, when he made a move on me I went along with it and ended up in my bed but when it actually came down actually doing it I couldn't, I felt totally turned off and cold. I just kept comparing him to my ex and feeling totally revolted

In a perverse way I still fancied my ex and I did sleep with him about 5 weeks ago and i just couldn't ever see me sleeping with anyone else, the thought made me heave tbh

I resigned myself to being celibate for a long long time ..and then i met some one! I'd been working with this (another) lad for 10 months, quite nice looking, never thought much more and then the last 3 weeks we've got really close and i've found myself falling for him in a big way and he feels the same.. we are taking it very slowly, still at the holding hands, kissing teenagerish stage and I like it. I've got butterflies and every thing its really weird and I'm starting to think that I could sleep with him if I took it slow. He's totally different to all the sleazy, up for one thing guys and I really like him

It will pass these feeling your getting.. you just have to stop beating yourself up about things and take things slowly. Perhaps your not ready for a physical relationship with someone else at the moment and its your body's ways of telling you that.

I never thought I would get these physical feelings back for anyone else. My ex is the only person I've ever slept with and its taken me a long time to get over the mental barrier.

Gosh I hope this helps and I haven't gone on to much! good luck anyway!.

why dont women have big hair like that anymore? I don't advocate single parentness, I remember you saying you were going to psyche yourself up.

I did say sorry earlier . . . .. Oh gawd. . . I am sorry, really bad manners x

you've reminded me of Buster Bloodvessel now, I had a mate just like him....well someone had to say something

hmm, was his name Big Pete?

Prettyfly, I hope speak for both of us (if you don't mind ND), we meant no harm to your thread - just indie kids making contact!

We are both back in the common room of college - (ask him about the Sundays . . .)

sheep i am really pleased or ya. i truly hope it works out and you enjoy it cause it sounds like you desrve it. and northern i do hope your not referring to me as mr bloodvessel i will have you know i most certainly am not. actually i have no idea what he is like but it osunded insulting!!!!!!!!!!

no honest, Libb said we had bad manners, Buster was lead singer, and I was more 10,000 maniacs. Good to hear someone sorting thier lives out tho.

I'm off to bed, sorry again about losing your original thread . . . personally I rarely meet people with my musical tastes so I tend to go off on one.

I hope you do feel ready one day to move on, I know you will xxxx

thats cool i was only messing, i even know wone or two of the bands myself. only one or two though.

I know who Buster was by the way . . . my crush was Suggs for about 7 weeks . .

sad woman

shut it.

Its a good job you can't reach me from there. goodnight all.

Debaser by Pixies now . . goodnight xxx

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I swear, sometimes I don't know what you're talking about, goodnightxxx

my memory isnt brilliant, but anathem for doomed youth seems to have summed me up at the time. I was smiths through and through.