Total rubbish posted here about Polys!

[TruePoly]

Most the stuff I have read here posted by Polys is total crp. They are no more Polys than I am the next PM! Glad to see that the troll concerned was outed. Yes BTW most female polys are indeed bisexual so the poster who wrote that at least knew what they* were talking about!

I live in a four way poly relationship. No farm, no barns, no Dower house (WTF!!) just an ordinary Victorian house in the UK midlands.

Hmm, well this thread's an excellent demonstration of why some poly people feel the need to stand up for themselves and others feel that the risks of being upfront about their households/lifestyles are too great.
Piss-taking is all very well and no one and no worldview is exempt from it, but people who reject monogamy can find themselves getting a lot of unwanted aggravation from the monogamist world such as people calling social services because there 'must' be some sort of risk to children from living in a poly household (because, hey, everyone knows that anyone who is into any sexual behaviour other than heteromonogamy MUST really be a peedafil. Despite the vast majority of sexual abuse of children happening in heteronormative families...)
So I can see why the OP might have found the Extended extended sagas more irritating than funny. Mind you, some folks on the poly scene are pompous, boring self-obsessed knobbers. Just like some monogamous folks.

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Your op makes it sound as if we chat about polygamy on MN every day (or at least often)

Tbh your posts and your attitude are very similar in style to the troll poly posters your refer to anyway

Sounds to me like you are just enjoying stirring up something out of nothing

"But I think for some people, it is a great excuse to pretend to be alternative and exciting."

YY. Polyamory desperately attention-seeking and provincial. Monogamy is about the least interesting orthodoxy there is - there are so many more interesting ways to be nonconformist, I think.

polyscansomeonemakeajokeaboutcarkeysandpampasgrass?

SGB, I agree entirely, but:

"There is plenty on the Net if you are interested in the truth."
"You need educating"
etc, from someone who started a thread to tell us about a lifestyle when we didn't ask and don't care, is a bit hard to swallow.

The Extended troll was a troll, that thread is pretty clear and everyone knows that.

It's just that, after that thread died, no-one turned out to actually give a shit about other people's lifestyle arrangements.

OBM: Maybe ranting about poly lifestyles on line is a bit attention seeking, but who do you think you are to call someone else's chosen way of living 'attention seeking and provincial'? Poly people, like gay people, mostly just want to go about their business and not have to hide or lie about their relationships - but this always makes mundanes sniff and accuse them of 'flaunting' it and being difficult on purpose.
Monogamy clearly doesn't work for substantial numbers of people, so deciding to reject it is a perfectly valid way of living.

'Poly people, like gay people, mostly just want to go about their business and not have to hide or lie about their relationships - but this always makes mundanes sniff and accuse them of 'flaunting' it and being difficult on purpose.'

SGB, with all respect, this is doubtless true of many poly people, but you can't pretend it's true of all of them. Sure, there are plenty of boring smug marrieds, too. They're annoying; doesn't stop the OP being annoying.

I don't think that polyamory has ever been subjected to the sort of overt and public prejudice that homosexuality generates, so that comparison seems a bit off to me. In fact, I've never heard anyone in RL suggest polyamory is immoral or unpleasant or anything like that - I've heard those responses many times to homosexual relationships.

but, sgb, this particular poster is "flaunting it" because he/she came on here with no provacation/invitation whatsoever to rant about something that has been out of active conversations for at least 6 months or so

why ???

you don't find me, or any of the other smug marrieds, going on an unsolicited rant about monogamy do you ? (well, I can think of one exceptional poster, you know who you are ...)

Bless her heart though, we love her, don't we?

who annie ?

sgb...or "the other one"...

or even...the poly one...I suppose she/he is cute in an annoyingly persistent puppyish way, wanting to play all the time

Aww, shucks.....

< innocent look >

Mal..who says we were talking about you ?

It's not all about you, ya know

I meant the evangelical monogamist, but yes, SGB too, obviously. I don't see the persistent polyposter as cute, just rather silly.

Oh hi Malificence, didn't see you there honey

gawd...don't get her talking about honey...

I'm not talking about any sex-related things, I'm in a period of enforced celibacy, DH is on uber strong painkillers that make him feel sick in the day and render him comatose at night, 's not good. I'm eating a lot of chocolate and seretly eyeing him up like a lioness sizing up a wildebeast - I think I might actually explode. DIY just makes me worse, I got through a lot of batteries last week so I'm just surpressing my frustration ( rather badly and grumpily).

It's not alllll about you, either, LeQ

Dammit Auntie Fucker, if you hadn't already accepted Sassybeast I'd be making a move on you myself.

Wait, this is the poly thread isn't it... I wonder... naaaaaah.

His back is no better and he now has a cough, those two things really complemnet each other.
I'm digging out my wimple as we speak, we didn't go this long without after his vasectomy! 9 days and counting.

I am actually beginning to see the potential benefits of another "husband" , if only DH had a twin, d'you think I could clone him with all the sweat that's pouring off him in bed?

Anniegetyourgun - step away from my woman Or man - I'm not sure what we actually agreed. but the hotel is booked

I'll go and put my photocopier back in the cupboard then #sniff#