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Went mad at dp last night - no question about me being unreasonable!

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 08:40

We have been trying to book a holiday for weeks and weeks, we can't agree on where to go and I have just ran out of time due to work commitments and ran out of patience with him because he just is so indifferent that it makes me think he doesn't want to go. We are supposed to be flying Fri night/sat morning!

Anyway I finally found some that looked appealing yesterday and sat him in front of the computer last night.

He started looking and demonstrated that he obviously hadn't been listening to a word I said over the last few months (changing the outbound dates to dates that weren't suitable amongst other things)

He sat in front of the bloody computer all night and at about 10:45 he announced that he'd found somewhere that he liked (please bear in mind that I have suggested nearly every holiday destination around the world) and it was the last place him and his ex went on holiday.

Something in me snapped and I went mad, I threw what I had in my hand at him (have never thrown anythign before - ever) and just hurled abuse at him. Found a box of cigrettes in the back of a kitchen cupboard, stood outside smoked a fag whilst he was asking questions about where else I'd like to go (he compeltely ignored the abuse). I just ignored him, went to bed without speaking another word. He sat down stairs for about 15 mins then came up, asked in a real soft voice if I was awake and I pretended I was asleep. Got up this morning and he was asleep, didn't wake him to say bye or anything.

Feel rotten about being a bitch but feel so cross with him still that I don't even want to talk to him let alone grovel.

This probably doesn't make sense without our history so hears a brief catch up..

We split up 4 or 5 years ago after a 2 year relationship because he would never do anything with me. He had another girlfriend who he dated last year for about a year who he went loads of places with including 4 holidays, amongst other weekends away, days out etc. Now we're back together he doesn't want to do anything with me again. Yes I know it's jealousy but I don't understand what's wrong with me, if he doesn't like spending time with me then why isn't he with her or someone else. I just could scream!

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 13:10

could prob stretch to £450 if I have to pay sups etc

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 13:10

sorry that's not clear. £450 + supps

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TracyK · 27/07/2005 13:11

why not just book youself into a health spa - you could get 4 or 5 days for that price - incl. food!

Fimbo · 27/07/2005 13:12

When exactly and which airport?

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 13:14

Flying Friday or Saturday. From any London

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Fimbo · 27/07/2005 13:22

Tunisia?

bossykate · 27/07/2005 13:26

Self catering in the Algarve . looks nice.

there's also a 4* deal to St George Corfu.

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 13:47

the 4* in St George is where I went last September. Actually got on with the locals really well.

Had ruled it out with DP as fancied something different but on my own... well it's not such a bad idea, I got to know a lot of the hotel staff and local bar owners so would feel quite comfortable going back on my own!

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 13:47

thanks. Feel a bit excited now.

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 14:11

Won't take single travellers. bollocks!

buckled and texted him. ended up having a massive go at him (again) over text. The response was simply..

'book anywhere and I will go'

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Blackduck · 27/07/2005 14:17

Get booking then...

Fimbo · 27/07/2005 14:20

Hey things are looking up!! Good luck - have a lovely holiday.

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 14:38

I should be pleased but i'm not. I still don't want to talk to him let alone spend a week with him.. hopefully will feel differently tonight.

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bossykate · 27/07/2005 14:40

ooh, good news! have you booked it?

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 16:16

QUICK QUICK - what's KOS like?

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Bugsy2 · 27/07/2005 16:17

nice, hot, some of the resorts are huge though.

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 16:18

kos town? lambi(?)

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oops · 27/07/2005 16:37

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lunavix · 27/07/2005 16:44

Book a holiday for you n kids n not him. Tell him it's his fault.

MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 17:01

I like to get away for a week on my own each year.

Limmassol

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MascaraOHara · 27/07/2005 18:29

so... limassol it is. Had to adjust the dates slightly but nevermind.

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Fimbo · 27/07/2005 22:45

Good, is he going too?

MascaraOHara · 28/07/2005 08:33

Yes but we're still barely speaking to each other.

He's got a cob on though - didn't even eat his dinner.

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TracyK · 28/07/2005 08:45

Lets hope he grows up by the weekend!
Maybe this is what his ex p had to go through to get him to go away with her too.

MascaraOHara · 28/07/2005 12:13

but how pathetic - not eating your dinner? how old is he 14?!?!

Made me laugh though

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