I have been living with my partner for 2 years and all that time I have simply thought he was ignorent, self centered and downright rude. We recently found out that he has aspergers.
I'm torn between feeling guilty that I never supported him or showed him any understanding and also knowing that I don't want to live with it anymore.
I know it's awful to leave someone because they suffer from a condition but I can't help the way I feel.
I mean, I look at other couples and see them laughing and joking, talking, co-operating and then there's me and DP.
He can't take a joke - doesn't even register that you ARE joking most of the time.
Never listens to a word anyone says and quite often just interupts them mid-sentance because he's decided he needs to speak.
He outright ignores people or just starts to walk away whilst they're still talking.
He's rude, says the most horrible things without even realising he's upsetting you.
I just keep thinking "do I want to spend my life like this?" wouldn't it be nice to be with someone I can have a laugh with ... someone I can say something to and have him laugh with me rather than just reacting with a "umm" sound? To be able to discuss things with someone rather than just getting a "yeah, have you seen my phone?" response to an otherwise important comment ...
Does anyone else live with a partner with aspergers? do you miss the normal social interactions you'd get with perhaps someone else? Do you feel frustrated when it seems he's incapable of thinking about anyone but himself?