I understand it's a good idea to make a note of all incidences - time/date etc. in the event of any kind of court case. Photos are a very good idea, too.
Because you have a child as well, wouldn't that give you a bit more 'clout' with the police? Scaring/intimidating and robbing you in the middle of the night is bad enough but his behaviour seems to be unpredictable and tbh he doesn't sound stable (not meaning to frighten you). If he's exhibiting sociopathic behaviour you can never be sure what else these types are capable of. I know psychos aren't usually axe-wielding, they're much more subtle, cruelly manipulative and clever about how they abuse you, and how they present the situation to others, making out you're the loony one. But, as far as the police are concerned, you'd have every grounds for calling them, especially as there's a child involved, either during an incident or just to register your concerns and asking what sort of protection they can offer for you and your daughter.
Yes, you're perfectly right, there are more of them out there than you think, aren't there? Rarely with 'Psycho' written across their forehead and usually charming - that's how they draw in their 'victims'. If you've never come across one before, you're likely to pass off the odd 'incident' - as you did with the falling over thing - and while it might puzzle you slightly at the time - something not feeling quite right - you, (being 'normal', using 'normal' thinking), give the benefit of the doubt, as, surely, you must have been mistaken; you ignore and maybe don't even recognise the alarm bells, going off in your belly, you ignore your instincts, and rationalise it with your head - as I say, if you've never come across it before it doesn't quite compute, takes you by surprise and you end up thinking it's you. And they let you - actively cultivate it in fact. To fuck with your mind and destablise you.
They know perfectly well what is considered 'normal' behaviour, don't they? In fact they're quite skilled at social interaction, if they weren't their victims wouldn't fall for them. They know how to push all the buttons in their 'targets' (like your friend - and like the 'crocodile tears') but in their own sick, twisted minds all they're interested in is using that person for their own ends. They are incapable of any genuine feelings for another person, be it empathy, concern or love but are very skilled at mimicking it. They're so clever at putting on an act so you go on falling for it, and it can go on for years. I remember reading somewhere, it being a sort of 'arrested development', these people never got beyond the ego-centric period that is normal human development at around the age of about 18 months. Never learn or progress, as normal children do, to consider or empathise with others. To me, this sounds too much like an excuse and I'd happily see these malevolent, vicious parasites swinging from the nearest lampost.
Sorry, I seem to have ranted a bit and gone off topic, but the particular personal experience I had concerned one such individual and a friend of a friend (and no, I don't mean 'me'), many years ago. He wasn't violent with her, nothing so obvious and that might have meant police involvement. He was, outwardly, reasonably respectable looking, she was a single parent of five having recently split from a long marriage to an abusive, alcoholic and profligate husband. Believe me, this was preferable to what was to come, at least she knew what her husband was. This evil monster presented himself to this vulnerable woman as some sort of saviour, a Knight in Shining Armour, and being vulnerable, she fell for it. He isolated her from her friends and family, and then, as if she didn't have enough troubles, set about destroying her, slowly and cruelly, making her believe all along, that what he was doing was 'for her and her family's own good'. The worst, but by no means the only thing - he was jealous, I suppose, of her relationship with her 18 year old eldest son, it got in the way of his controlling her. Gradually, he undermined this relationship and the son eventually took an overdose and died. Shortly after, he decided he had no further need of this woman, having found another 'victim', and told her ex-husband he'd been having an affair with her - threw her to the wolves. This next 'victim' was, would you believe, an 18 year old girl with learning disabilities - or, 'a bit slow' as her father told me - I went to try and warn him but, as he said, 'she's 18, I can't stop her'. He wasn't happy about the relationship, this monster was in his 40's, but I think the father thought I was some sort of nutter. He knows different now.
Sadly, she was by no means the last, and to my knowledge, this evil man has got away with it and is still 'active' to this day. He was far too clever and careful to ever actually break the law but to my certain knowledge the local police were well aware, through complaints from various women, but were never able to charge him with anything at all. The damage that man did and is probably still doing to some poor unsuspecting woman somewhere is horrifying. While your situation, Strangeitude, doesn't sound quite as extreme, it's enraging to think this behaviour goes on as often as it does and goes unpunished.
Thing is, these people have no conscience about the damage and hurt, no matter how extreme, they cause you, your children or anyone else in their drive to further their own interests.
I'm so glad you've sussed this bastard, sounds as if he's taken you for a sucker for long enough. I'm just sorry for his next victim; they rarely change this behaviour, they just get better at it.
Go easy on that gin, girl.