I am convinced my partner is Bi-Polar, i am sure it is not healthy to self diagnose another person, but when he will do nothing to diagnose himself I feel the need to be proactive and seek advice. If something isn't done soon then i don't know what will happen.
Currently my partner is sleeping in the car, he has not changed his clothes or had a wash in 5 days. Not eating enough, staring into space, has no recollection of previous conversations, thinks he has told me what he is doing by phone, when he hasn't got in touch. Post hasn't been opened for 6 months, bailiffs are at the door, 60,000 has been spent on his credit cards. He organised our wedding then didn't turn up to it, all manner of things.
He has cut off from all friends and family, refuses to answer any contact, sleeping patterns are incredibly erratic, if he sleeps at all. Most of the time he goes to sleep at 3 in the morning and gets up at 6 in the morning. He is lying about going to work (self employed), losing contracts. Drinking, smoking weed. The same sentences are repeated with not much else in the way of conversation. Sentences filled with hopelessness and despair, but also at the same time seem completely disconnected from reality and almost unemotional and robotic.
This is one side of him, this side is intertwined with a sudden appearance of a positive man. This positive man just joined me for a weekend in Frankfurt in which he said he was going for a walk and dissapeared for 24 hours. 10 minutes before he dissapeared he was joyful and full of random plans for the future that had no practical basis.
This is what i am finding, he is going from complete despair to another person who wants to do everything but has completely unrealistic ideals. His sentences go from the negative to the "things will be great, things will be fine" but then still no realistic lifeskills to put things in place.
He is acting like a child, basic functions of adult care have gone, even from making a cup of tea to shaving. He turned up in Frankfurt with no clothes or suitcase but thought this was perfectly normal.
Another symptom from all of this is suddenly his eyes will turn and he will be angry abusive and damn right insulting. He will find arguments to pursue claiming I brought up the subject when i wasn't even speaking. He will tear people apart he doesn't even know and be judgmental and paranoid. It is frightening to be at the receiving end of as five seconds before he will be telling me how beautiful i am.
Personally i am constantly on edge, i wait and wait as i am now, until he comes back, what i mean by that is at the moment he is a stranger, he wont talk, he doesn't like me, he has no empathy, he is cruel and distant but unaware. I wait for him to come back to earth to tell him what he has been like.
I am starting to discover though, after years of this, he has no control over when he dissapears.
Three doctors appointments have been made, debt advisory appointments have been made, these are made when he is in a different mood, then he misses them because he is cloudy again. I cant handle his debt as i don't have permission, i have only been living with him for 6 months. I am scared he will end up in prison due to him ignoring baillifs and speeding fines and court cases.
Anyhow, I am calling him my partner, but I have decided to leave and secured another home. I still love him and care about him though. So I was hoping for advice on how to help him.
I don't know what to do about getting him help, getting him to wash, getting him to go bankrupt, getting him to sleep in the house or in a bed. I can't see him like this and do nothing.