why text us but not text back?!!

[weejock]

i am sooo over receiving texts from guys, i answer and then they dont reply!!! wtf!!

i could understand if it was me initiating texts but its not!!

am i that dull at replying that they dont want to answer??

if so then why text me in the first place?!!

beginning of text, an example...

'hey there sexy little minx x thought i would say hi from *

i replied

hey there yourself handsome!! i am officially jealous of you being in *** apart from that i am great!!!

he did reply to say how great was i and that he wanted to know more about me..

i replied

no answer....

WTF....

I wouldn't reply unless you are being asked a question. You are answering a statement with a statement, don't answer at all. If he asks how you are then reply.

yes there is always a question to how i am and feeling today. i reply then nothing...

prob should point out the texts are from 2 equally text confused guys.

ive just escaped from a crap 2 1/2 year relationship, so not quite sure how to play things???!!

ahhh its tough!!!

Do you know these people?

It all sounds a bit 0800 to me...

I wouldn't want to see someone that called me that to be honest. He sounds like he's playing games.

Are you kidding Belle? I would love to be called a sexy little minx...by anyone!!!

monty im not sure what the biscuit means?

belle - the other text guy has been in a relationship with me (or so i thought) since last december.

i was away for a month, whilst away he said how much he missed me and that we could go on holiday in june.. blah blah cos he sure hasnt mentioned it now that i am back..

i am a doormat..

i dont want to be but its what im great at!!!

Hmm. I'd be picky, it's not just anyone who should be calling you that, it should be someone special.

As you have said, you've just escaped a crap relationship, it can be really easy to jump right into another one.

Why do you say that you are great at being a doormat? Surly you deserve better then this? We all do or what's the point? You define your self worth, why aim so low?

haha fizz i am a sexy little minx hee hee !!!!

BOF whats 0800??

ok i am great at being a doormat because...

the guys at work call me 'boil in the bag'

i have my own house, car, son (at boarding school)so can have nights out, great to be around, good at cooking, making you feel at home in my space... i am excellant at all of that...

i do this too often which makes me a doormat, eager to please but not getting anything back.... = doormat!!!

hmmmm sp excellent!!

Im just done in with guys who get in touch with no prompting then back off...

i can confirm that i am not a freak or unbalanced or a bunny boiler...

But honestly, why are you even replying to those texts? make the effort with those who make the effort, but with people using run of the mill tacky lines? just ignore.

It doesn't matter how people see you, it's how you see yourself that matters. It sounds like you have been around alot of people who don't appreciate you so give you nothing in return for your time and effort. I would take some time away from men and find myself if you see what I mean. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. You have to have self worth in order to attract people who are worthy of your time, you need to work on this first.

well mongolia its prob because i actually want to be with someone, i miss being in a relationship.

i feel that i have soo much to give but i just get taken from and get nothing back..

i do realise that i am obviously being attracted to the wrong sort but how do you find the right sort of man who is ok???

Just because you miss being in a relationship it doesn't mean that you should accept the first person that comes along.

You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find your prince weejock.

How do you want to be perceived? what do you expect in a relationship? You know that old adage that says you are better on your own than with the wrong sort of company? People respect people who know what they want.

Do you normally feel flattered when called sexi minx by total strangers? if you do, then answer the messages. If you don't wait, until the right person comes along.

hmmm belle i understand what you are saying and believe me i do have a fair idea of my own self worth etc..

i unfortunately cannot just take time out as i am surrounded by men every day.

this is usually not a problem but i have just returned fron a month away, i had to deal with advances from someone who 1. i wold never ever ever find in the slightest way attractive and 2. had to work with every single day in a desert environment.

i made it ok, i conveniently did not mention his advances thus making the the det easier for everyone.

yep.... doormat!!!

Why don't you just ring them up if you want to talk to them?

i think thats my point, i have a low opinion of myself therefore i expect others to feel the same..

i then complain when they treat me as such...

hmm...

mrsfs.. neither one of these guys is a 'ring me up' type.

all my friends and myself are strictly texters not talkers....

and just realised how weird that is....

See, maybe it's now time to have a deep look at things and work out where it is that you want to go and, equally as important, who you want to go there with. Get to know you first.

Exactly, don't let people treat you as "such". Set your own guidelines on what you want and don't deal with people who are not up to the required standard.

And you might be surprised, that once the rules are there, some people might become perfect gentlemen once they realise you are not fair game.

but belle thats the thing, i do know me and i want a someone special to know me too!!

but i cant seem to get rid of the eager to please bit...

my friend (male) said to me yesterday...

'what is it about you that when you get a man they get bored? you make it too easy for them..'